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Being single is really tough !!! posted 10/28/2007 2:20:59 PM | 2 kudos what's this?     report abuse   Fckmhrdtnght Relationship with a legal piece of paper is called marriage. relationships are a lot of hard work. relationships are harder when people people are in the 30's and older ... when there is another facets to include: lot less single people out there difficult to find venues with just singles married people who play games with singles aging parents children living with them or visitations reduced income due to support for children or spouse fear of pain..... experience from previous relationships damaged people and the different coping methods that people use to get by in life.. workaholics drinking drugs gambling thrill seeking TV Internet I've come back into the dating world... from 17 to 47 .... and this is what I have noticed. And for sure, I am one of those damaged people who will have reduced income from spousal support. And of course always have the fear that a man is just out to use me financially no matter how much money he makes or what he owns. However being married and having children does put a bigger commitment on a relationship. Then again in my case, I stayed in a relationship which I should have bailed out twenty years earlier because of my children. The biggest and hardest thing to cope with..... being single.... is the loneliness....... wanting to be held by a pair of strong male arms at night when I sleep the comfort of knowing that I will be seeing him soon. a great companion to talk to about almost anything. You know that I have to give a lot of credit to anyone who is single... it's very tough a lot tougher than married people realize. At least in my case, I know I made the right decision.... as tough as it is being single... it was much tougher being in an unhappy relationship/marriage with someone who wasn't willing to communicate and make an effort. Copy & paste to friend: (Click inside box; Ctrl + C to copy; Ctrl + V to paste)

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Lisa46	Oct 28 @ 2:38PM
	Yep your right and I hate it But until I found someone who isn't a player, or idiot i will stay this way..You know???
ValentineGirl214	Oct 28 @ 2:57PM
	I agree with Lisa!! Until then I'll stay single.......
openmindedguy71	Oct 28 @ 3:12PM
	You know so many people dont realise that women arent the only who want to be held or who wants to hold somone. I look around the world and I see so many people who take love and marriage for granted. There are some of us who would die for the chance to have what others care little about. I understand some people dream of riches, or popularity, fame, successs, but to me none of that has any appeal. When I think the most wonderful things in the world is to tell someone that you love them. To say goodmorning to the man or woman you love. To look in the eyes of a child who you have shared with that special someone. It is hard being single when the very dreams others take for granted always seem out of reach.
partytimemary	Oct 28 @ 3:45PM
	Very well stated.... FMHT ~ I completely concur.... kudos are in order! Another issue I find problematic is the people who want to have "more" children or their own children.... Which is completely understandable and respectable, but at a later stage in life.... I am personally done raising children and am ready for some "US" time.... (run into that issue???) And Openminded ~ I can totally understand that wonderment as well... many of us take for granted people in our lives or just the simple fact that we can get out of bed in the morning, put both feet on the floor and stand upright... until these things are taken from us.... we never truly appreciate them ~
zena343	Oct 28 @ 3:46PM
	What a great blog, and you are right......it is tough being on your own, handling everything on your own. Sometimes you just want that someone there that is going to hold you and tell you that everything is going to be ok, don't worry. Someone when they look in your eyes you know that there is NO ONE ELSE!! FOR HIM OR YOU!! God what I wouldn't do for that!! Openmindedguy, there are lots and lots of women out there that are looking for someone exactly like you, keep the faith cause we are out there. Great blog, kudos to you!!
31sunshine	Oct 28 @ 4:10PM
	wanting to be held by a pair of strong male arms at night when I sleep It is hard being single when the very dreams others take for granted always seem out of reach. I 2nd both of these statements. And when I find the one who is meant for me, the fight is on, because I will never stop fighting to make my dreams come true. In the mean time, I don't settle and I'm happy with me.
LilGriz	Oct 28 @ 4:27PM
	Us guys have it hard also, and according to the census, there are only 3% more married than single. Alot of us men who do pay support and do not have custody don't have an easy time of making ends meet either. PTM, I have run into alot of women in my age group who want nothing to do with me, as my youngest is 6, because of the reason you stated about US time.
FUNGUY007	Oct 28 @ 6:34PM
	I have been single 11years.Lets keep it simple read a few blogs that they have wrote or answered, to get the feel of the person.. Give it six months of emailing, to check things out. This is my idea of finding the right person for me. Let me know if you see any holes in my plan?
StraddleMyNose	Oct 28 @ 9:24PM
	Man, you got that right about relationships are harder when you're in your 30's. I'm a little too set in my ways and all.
partytimemary	Oct 28 @ 9:33PM
	Griz ~ Let me reiterate...on that ( I didn't mean to be insulting) What I SHOULD have said was that "additional" children were going to become an issue. The children we/I/they already have are "welcomed" into the relationship. Having more babies is not an option.... I apologize....I would never NOT date a man because he had children, I have children too....but if he starts buggin' for more children....ahhhh that's when the brakes go on ~ FAST! Sorry Bub, NO CAN DO.... But to eliminate someone all together because of kids....I'm sorry but that's just shallow....
lifeizabitch	Oct 29 @ 9:27AM
	I agree with Toms comment and will add that allthough I was not looking for any type of relationship when I got out of prison,I find myself in one now that is changing my world everyday for the better.