I know this has been bloged about before........but humor me.
What is the age limit you would set for yourself in meeting someone? Can be younger or older. I know some say its only a number but if we are honest that can't be true, I can't imagine too many people going out with someone that was .........say 40 or 50 years older then them. So I guess in reality age is not just a number. Would you go outside of your age range if they perhaps didn't look or act their age, would you be more accepting of them being older/younger then what you were looking for? Also how do we set a number or is it just a guide line that you would be willing to go over if it were just maybe a year or two or five??
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ABrownEyedScorpio
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Oct 26 @ 4:42PM
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It depends on the individual. Was with a man who was just shy of being 9 years older...no biggie BUT, he acted older than my dad! Disaster. With a man 1 year younger now and BLISSFULLY HAPPY!!!   
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Ewe_Wish
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Oct 26 @ 4:44PM
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but humor me ummmm OK....................
Ok i hope I humored you.........as for age.......no i dont have anything written in stone just an age ranger I would prefer............but who knows who your heart is attracted to.............and it doesnt notice age.
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freebirdie
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Oct 26 @ 4:47PM
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I'm with someone 11 years younger than me but he's been divorced twice, has two children, and has lost a partner to death, like I have......age in this case IS just a number because the maturity and experiences are there.....the only difference that is major between us is our respective taste in music.....he's a hard rocker  and I like pretty much everything BUT that! lol! He's also awesome in bed, but that wasn't what you were asking about ............ 
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baldbychoice2kx
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Oct 26 @ 4:56PM
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It depends on the two people involved. To me, age is just a number. If they get along well and everything works out, then great!
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31sunshine
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Oct 26 @ 5:06PM
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Yes I set age limits in my profile, but the bottom line will be finding someone who is my match. Age beyond that is irrelevant. It's just a starting point.
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ynot7769
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Oct 26 @ 5:14PM
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well older then my kids a good one for age.....i mean other wise how you explain that one  
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morticiaadams
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Oct 26 @ 5:24PM
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depends on the person for the most part but I have to draw the line at 28 though I was with one younger than that once. As for the older...43 tops..unless of course there is so much physical attraction there that it wouldnt matter.
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whenyoucomingback
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Oct 26 @ 5:33PM
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If its for a realtionship - 10 years is about the most that many people can handle without being incompatible
If your just talking about sex - then it doesnt matter at all I dont think - I've done women as old as 73 - if your having fun then it dont matter - long as its legal and everyone is happy
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FUNGUY007
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Oct 26 @ 6:03PM
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For me it would be looks,activity and   commutation between two people. 
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max49
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Oct 26 @ 6:07PM
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I would have to say as long as the other person was of legal age then age is just a number as long as they really get along but somehow when it starts getting 40, 50 or more years difference then it has to be for money. Just my worthless opinion. 
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mrknowuwell
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Oct 26 @ 6:13PM
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plus or minus 75 yrs is my limit 
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Ashinatrix
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Oct 26 @ 6:13PM
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10 years is about the most that many people can handle without being incompatible I had a 5 yr ltr with a man that was 20 yrs my senior when I was 20 to 25....we were quite compatible....
My husband of 10 yrs after that was 10 yrs my senior....
I tend to find older men more mature, hence more attractive....
But just recently....I have met some younger men that are quite mature....ones who want to find relationships.....
I find the older I get my age standards seem to be changing...go figure
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StraddleMyNose
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Oct 26 @ 6:34PM
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Well, I used to like them young as far as anywhere from 18 to 40. As I got older I realize now it would be better to have someone a little closer to my age because they would have known what it was like growing up in the era I grew up in and the common bonds we would have. I raised it up to 25 to 40, but for the most part I would like more from 29-35. Kim will be 35 next month and everything worked out.
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slohand_47
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Oct 26 @ 6:34PM
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I've used plus or minus 5 years as a guidline and went from there. That's for a relationship. For a FB...... no age limit either direction. If you click, you click.
Back in my yahoo chat days.... I encountered a number of women in their mid 40's who married men 10 years older than they were. It was all romantic and exciting when they were in their 20's cuz "he" would be worldly and established. At 45 the kids were grown, they were hitting their sexual peak and their hubbys had turned into couch potato's with the sex drive of a turnip.
So, no, I am not too old for you...... just too far away, hon. 
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openmindedguy71
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Oct 26 @ 7:21PM
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I would say generally my age + or - 5 years, there could be exceptions depending on the woman, the level of maturaty, and how many things we have in comen. After dealing with someone recently I know that some people my age really arent all that mature.
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Ashinatrix
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Oct 26 @ 8:00PM
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I know that some people my age really arent all that mature. Hey!!!  I resemble that remark!!!!!! 
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sugarnspice005
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Oct 26 @ 8:07PM
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At least you got a reflection in the mirrow. I didn't get one when I looked in one. Am I a ghost or something now?
SCORP!!!! Long time no see gf!!!!
Ok...now to the question...oldest I was with, he was 13 years older than me...and we got engaged.
Younger? As long as he isn't young enough to be my kid..I would probably consider it.
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sugarnspice005
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Oct 26 @ 8:14PM
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Now that was embarassing....
the quote was SUPPOSED to be:
With a man 1 year younger now and BLISSFULLY HAPPY!!!
*walks out muttering to self "next time check before you post goof ball"*
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fukky
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Oct 26 @ 8:54PM
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The oldest guy I was with was 14 years older than me...and it didn't work out well at all. I was only 19 years old at the time and he was not the more mature one in the relationship. I've never actually dated anyone younger than me but I would definitely like to because I have learned over and over that older guys are not necessarily more mature. As far as a limit goes, I'd say the youngest I'd probably date would be 5 years younger and the oldest is probably 8-10 years older. That can change, though, if I met someone that I clicked with that was either younger or older than that.
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Sunshinegal35
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Oct 26 @ 9:04PM
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I've tried dating/sleeping with men 10 years younger than myself. Just doesn't cut it! The oldest I've ever dated was 8 years older than myself. That was fine. No problems there.
The lowest I might go is four years younger, but that's pushing it. I prefer my age or older for myself, and I'm not too anxious to deviate from that.....
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Lisa46
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Oct 26 @ 9:46PM
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humm when I was 25 I was with a man who was 13 yrs older  Haven't paid much attention since. It would depend on how the gentleman in question is in life. Which determines the relationship 
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ABrownEyedScorpio
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Oct 26 @ 9:50PM
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SCORP!!!! Long time no see gf!!!!
*HUGS* sugarrrrrrrrrr!!!
With a man 1 year younger now and BLISSFULLY HAPPY!!!
Never been this happy, as you know!
gf!!!!!!!
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jezzarae
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Oct 26 @ 10:30PM
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I have had sex partners 20 years younger than me and while the sex was great I could not see myself with them as a long term partner. They are interested in things way different from me. They still have their whole life ahead of them and so many things to do and see. I do not think it would be fair to saddle them with someone my age.
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hornytoad55
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Oct 26 @ 10:52PM
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zena my first wife was 2 years younger than me but I was the only guy she ever dated. We were best friends and lovers for 16 years then she realized she didn't have a teenage life and started seeing other men.
My second wife was 8 years older than me and had been married 4 times before me. We were happy until health drove us apart then I was still young and she was reaching 60 and health was the issue. I am undecided what is the answer on age but Ladies my ago are more compatible with me on music, sex, and maturity.
Men mature slower than women do so I would recommend the men be younger that the ladies by 1-3 years.
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borachone
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Oct 27 @ 1:33AM
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HMM lemme think 9 to 90 blind crippled or crazy if they can't walk I'll drag 'em
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jjhxjpb
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Oct 27 @ 8:54AM
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I was in a LTR with someone 16 yrs my senior, had he not been an alcoholic, it would have been fine. Youngest I was with, not dating, just partner was 14 yrs my junior... holy cow, I had never actually done the numbers before but that would never have been a LTR thing, but once was .... well, not bad at all
I guess I would say it really depends on how close they are to either my children or my mothers age
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AdianLow
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Oct 29 @ 6:25AM
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Well, as much as it scares the hell out of me to voice my own opinion, mainly because my spouse who just happens to be almost 9 years my senior has destroyed every ounce of self confidence I ever had, I'm going to anyway!
I'm sure there are situations where age makes no difference, but as far as I have seen it usually turns into a situation where the elder of the couple tries to have more of a parental relationship that that of a spouse. My spouse is 9 years my senior and I am constantly battling the "motherly instincts" that plague our relationship. We have been together almost 11 years, married almost 10 of those, and I have endured this about as long as I can stand it! We met online before meeting online was cool and I thought things were great at first! It didn't take long for the situation to turn bad though, especially in the physical department. I can honestly say that I have lived Eddie Murphy's definition of "same old crackers"! For about the past 9 years we have had the same sex in the same place the same way and I'm about to loose my mind! I have tried to change this, but my efforts have gone to waste. As far as I'm concerned I have about 9 years of foreplay to make up for, if anyone is interested!
I also have a friend at work of the opposite sex, nothing weird, just friends! Her spouse is 12 years her senior and she is experiencing the same issues that I am. She constantly talks about how her husband treats her like his daughter rather than his wife.
Now, one would think that I could strike up an extramarital situation with the co-worker, however that would put me into a relationship where I was the senior partner by about 7 years. She is a beautiful girl and we have considered the possibilities but I don't think it will ever happen. She is convinced that anyone that is more than a couple fo years away from her age would put her right back in the same situation.
This is not to say that extreme age differences never work out because I know that sometimes they do. But as far as my own personal experience and that of a close friend, things are not all that great. I'm almost 40 years old and I'm still being treated like a child in almost every respect. For someone with a fetish for that type of thing my situation would be great for them, but I don't have that type of fantasies.
Thanks for reading my firt post and I hope I haven't offended!
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nativeamr35
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Oct 29 @ 7:42AM
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I, up till now, not been against dating older women. My last gf was 13 years older than me. My ex-wife was a year and a half older, (not much realy). and so forth and so on.
I've dated much younger women also. 11 years younger.
I'm stuck in an age where no one is the right age. Older women are looking forward to living life without children. Younger women are looking forward to having kids. Women my age are too busy raising children.
But at the end of the day, I prefer a women to be younger.
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zena343
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Oct 29 @ 3:17PM
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No offense taken aidan and that was a great resopones to my blog. Great first comment by the way
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MEMEME69247
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Nov 5 @ 11:37PM
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Zena,,,,I have never dated anyone close to my age,,,when I was younger I dated Air Force Officers,,,I was a Civil Service Assistant to a Colonel,,,his secretary,,,his right hand.. I was dating men 35 and older,,,I was always attracted to older men....their mature handsome looks,,,,their intelligence,,,,and yes their being so tentative towards me,,,,spoiling me and taking the time to treat me as a real woman instead of a girl,,,,I never dated high school boys,,,,instead of going to high school football games and proms,,,I was attending Black and White Balls,,,, going to the coast and the city,,,,,I dated older men and loved every minute of it and would never change the pass I had.....
Now I am with a 33 year old and when he is gone I am into being myself,,,going out with my girlfriends....dancing the night away with younger men 23-31 yes am I happy,,,,yes I am very secure with myself and in our relationship....Not a jealous bone in my body,,,,My money is my money,,,,and their money is my money,,,,I don't pay for a dam thing,,,,and yes I am still spoiled and they treat me as a real woman that I am,,,,and they are younger much younger and very tentative to my needs and my wants or I would not spend the time of day with them....I have never had a regret of the life I live....I don't look 50 and I don't act 50....I am very young at heart,,,,,so age means nothing to me....Yes it is just a man made thing to keep track of our existence on earth....And for my sex life,,,,it's what I make of it and believe me,,,,it feels like explosions....Just my opinion and my life style.....Good blog and I hope I have humored you......Kudo goes out to you luv.....
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allforyou999
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Nov 19 @ 12:46PM
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For a relationship the limit would be forty, sex - any age is fine.
I have a lot of young girls wanting me for sex and I have went for it but most are as young as my dautghter
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Mama_taz
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Nov 26 @ 8:14AM
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I don't think age comes into it most of the time, as long as you are both happy that should be all that matters
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