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posted 10/19/2007 3:51:02 PM |
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  ladybootscooter

As we age and mature we naturally assume that others our age will act with the same maturity and responsibility as ourselves. I've always considered myself very much a person of my word. If I gave someone my word I did everything to keep that word. Brazen and outspoken I've been called, even a bitch, of course, but at least you knew where you stood with me. I don't lie, I don't candycoat my words, I don't screw around and I would never make someone believe that I felt something very special for them if I in fact didn't. So I guess when I thought I had met my match the one who "tripped my trigger", the person I had more in common with than either of my ex-husbands and I had all together, my other half so to speak that merely walked this Earth in another body it was so amazing to me. That he was a mere 75 miles from me even more so, as that is also rare online. That we could sit and talk all night about anything and everything as easily as have hot wonderful mindblowing sex all night, well that was all icing! We met well over a year ago and have been through so much together. Both of us have had some health scares and family emergencies in this past year. He was going through some rough times and when he disappeared from my life last fall I was deeply saddened but not heartbroken. When he reappeared months later with an excuse and apology I welcomed him with open arms. From that time over a year ago he began to pressure me to move there to "his" town. I explained time and time again my situation and that I can't move away until my son is out of school. He claimed he understood and didn't pressure me anymore to move. But our talks of a serious future together continued and we made plans to spend yet another long weekend together just a few weeks ago. I was packed and ready to pull out early Saturday morning when late on Friday night I got a long offline IM calling it all off as 75 miles is of course far too great a distance for a serious relationship. Now as soon as I can move there so that we can be together full time the relationship is back on, but of course he can't ask me to move now because of my son. Now all I can think is 7 months, 7 more months and my son would be out of school, off to college and I would be free to move wherever I cared to be. So why can't he deal with 7 months of getting to know each other better, 7 months of moving at a gradual speed, 7 months of seeing each other when we can before jumping into a permanent thing? Instead I suppose to some in this world of instant gratification that we live in 7 months is far too long to wait for anything. And sometimes 75 miles is a world away.

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REAL_UNIQUE

Oct 19 @ 3:56PM  
7 months is like nothing at our age.
Ewe_Wish

Oct 19 @ 3:58PM  
Stormy--I understand completely what you are going thru.........sometimes we meet someone we think that this is the person that we will love forever.....and suddenly they either disappear or find a reason why they no longer can or want to be with you........Its their problem........probably the fact at some point they have lied to you.........and if you get together.........if it becomes permanent......you will find out the truth. Just remember not all men are liars or players..........there are some decent men in the world............and one will come along for you. Lubs ya g/f
DeDe54

Oct 19 @ 4:01PM  
7 months is like an eternity when you really love and want to be with someone!! I understand that one all to well!!!!!!!!! My honey was 1600 miles from me, I had to wait 2 months to see him and I thought it was never going to end. Finally the day came, and we never have left each others sides since!!

Good Luck LBS, things are going to be wonderful when you get to him!!!!!!!!!!!!
max49

Oct 19 @ 4:06PM  
I don't know why everyone is so eager to just jump into anything. I agree with you Stormy. Take that time to really get to know one another and don't rush things. The better two people get to know each other before being together all the time the better off they are. Of course that's just my worthless opinion.
ladybootscooter

Oct 19 @ 4:13PM  
That's just it DeDe, after this I don't see us being together, ever. If he can't see me on a part time basis until I could move there, why would I want to move there? I used to drive farther across Dallas for lunch but I guess it's another world to him.

Max sorry, but you misread it too. I felt I did know him, I was wrong. Now what could have been, what possibly should have been........will never be.
ThePurpleProphet

Oct 19 @ 4:16PM  
Shoot, I average 200 miles every day. 75 miles is a little more than a hour drive. Spend a couple of hours together then go home. It sounds as maybe he is thinking that it's getting too serious for his liking. And it wouldn't have to be serious until graduation. Then you could take the next step. The time spent together could be used to get know one another better. That's just my two cents. I wish a girl would travel 75 miles to hang out with me for the weekend.
ynot7769

Oct 19 @ 4:18PM  
well, like you some have called me calluse or blunt..*have no clue what the fuck they're talking bout either by the way* but i'm with you ...can't wait ....cant meet in the middle or comprimise....


LET EM EAT SHIT WITH A SPOON


*you do remember i got LOTS of spoons and sometimes i'm even willing to deliver*

i AM sorry it came to that but maybe it's how its to be.......to learn there IS no comprimise now then before your there with him?? who knows...cosmic fate i think sometimes........
DeDe54

Oct 19 @ 4:23PM  
Sorry LBS, apparently I mis read what you wrote about being there after your son goes to college!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ewe_Wish

Oct 19 @ 4:23PM  
LET EM EAT SHIT WITH A SPOON
I seem to remember hearing those words of wisdom myself lately..............hmmmm
ynot7769

Oct 19 @ 4:25PM  
I seem to remember hearing those words of wisdom myself lately..............hmmmm

yes...and i told you ......just ask and i deliver.....
Argit01

Oct 19 @ 4:37PM  
Well Crissy and I have been waiting a good while longer than 7 months and we live 4000 miles away. Some things are worth waiting for I guess he didn't have the maturity to see that.
ynot7769

Oct 19 @ 4:38PM  
Well Crissy and I have been waiting a good while longer than 7 months and we live 4000 miles away. Some things are worth waiting for I guess he didn't have the maturity to see that.

YOU TELL EM G!!!!
PrincessKissy

Oct 19 @ 4:55PM  
Yeah... What G said!!
ladybootscooter

Oct 19 @ 5:22PM  
Well Crissy and I have been waiting a good while longer than 7 months and we live 4000 miles away. Some things are worth waiting for I guess he didn't have the maturity to see that.
Yeah... What G said!!

Guess that's the difference.......when you love someone enough...time and distance just don't matter.
StraddleMyNose

Oct 19 @ 5:45PM  
Man, I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. Right after meeting Kim oinline here and talking with her over the phone for almost two months she moved 3,000 miles across the country to be with me. Stormy, you're right, 7 months wouldn't have been bad to wait and learn more of one another. It would have given me something to look forward to anyway till I got with that person. I'm sorry it didn't work out with that person.
FUNGUY007

Oct 19 @ 5:47PM  

That's just it DeDe, after this I don't see us being together, ever. If he can't see me on a part time basis until I could move there, why would I want to move there? I used to drive farther across Dallas for lunch but I guess it's another world to him

Sounds like he is a control type person. Wasn't able to pick that out earlier?
ladybootscooter

Oct 19 @ 5:48PM  
Thanks Shawn! I think we all hope to find what you and Kim, or PK and G have found! It's just harder to find for some of us! Enjoy what you have, treasure it well for it is something special!
hornytoad55

Oct 19 @ 6:53PM  
LBS sorry to hear about your relationship. Have you tried to call and talk to him. He may just be having a brain fart. If you can just talk it out either he may get over it, or you will know his reason and maybe understand. I live it Houston and it's 75 miles just to do anything. If that is keeping you two apart he must be shallow and I can not picture you with a shallow man. Best of luck to you.
buatbu

Oct 19 @ 7:07PM  
LBS:
I can believe you have been leading me on for over a year. I'm crushed. The engagement is off! You can keep the ring but send back my Elvis pictures.
borty293

Oct 19 @ 8:05PM  
Sorry things didn't work out for you Stormy. The same thing happened to me about a year ago and I certainly learned from the experience, although it was painful..I'm happy it worked out the way it did. Someday I'll write about it ..Borty's Big Romance Falls Flat...I can laugh about it today ...but it sure wasn't funny when it happened...hang in there sweatheart...things always get better....
TastyCupcake

Oct 19 @ 8:10PM  
He was going through some rough times and when he disappeared from my life last fall I was deeply saddened but not heartbroken. When he reappeared months later with an excuse and apology I welcomed him with open arms.

It sounds like that seventy-five miles is helping him conceal something or someone about which or whom he doesn't want you to know. Geographically speaking and in terms of travel time seventy-five miles away isn't all that far away in the scheme of things. It should be perfectly understadable to someone who claims to love you that your child is your most important priority at this time. Please take it slow, and follow Judge Mablean's advice, "Look deep before you leap."
Lisa46

Oct 19 @ 10:39PM  
yano just for this reason I will not get involved with someone long distance. I know my heart and like you LBS I will do anything for anyone and I always keep my word. So why would someone want to break my heart??? My heart goes out to you and yes I understand why YOU won't be going anywhere in 7 months. IT takes two people to know each other good thing you found out now
31sunshine

Oct 19 @ 11:40PM  
LBS...as you know I just got out of a relationship with my guy who was only 90 miles away and for pretty much the same reason...that he didn't want to put the work and time in on a long distance relationship, he wants someone who is there every day. Sucks he put us in a position that it's all or nothing. For me to move to be with him would mean leaving my kids behind or taking them from their dad, whom I share custody with so it wouldn't be an easy choice for me, but I was willing to consider it for the love of my life...definately not worth it when he won't fight for us. And the same goes for you, you deserve better!!

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