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posted 10/16/2007 8:32:57 PM |
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  Blackfromwaistdown

Hmm, well where to start? I have had 3 relatives die in the past year. Although each hurts me to see them leave, I can not help but feel at peace knowing they are not suffering like us. My grandpa was the last to go last Thurs. but i know he did everything he had to do before he left us. He even mowed his yard, cleaned out his shed, and got the snowblower ready for winter. As I looked at them all I could tell that they were doing well. Might I also add that, it is the time for that generation in my family to be passing. So, I guess my question really is, .. Should I actually be in mourning or is it just fine being at peace with them leaving?

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Oct 16 @ 8:38PM  
I think you are lucky if you are in a place where you can feel at peace. I wish I could feel that way. My mom passed away 4.5 yrs ago and I still mourn her death every day.
Blackfromwaistdown

Oct 16 @ 8:44PM  
I'm sorry to hear, I'm sure that when im in that situation, I will also greave.
roger54

Oct 16 @ 9:28PM  
Each of us grieve or mourn in our own ways. I miss those of my family that have left this world, and I chose to have fond memories of them. Mine were ill and in pain when they left, so I feel that they are no longer suffering. It is also easier on me to not see them suffering. I am at peace with their passing for they led good lives, in fact at one point I told my father that if he wanted to fight I would help him, but if he was tired of fighting that it was ok for him to go as well. My family lives on in my heart and mind and memories, so in a way they have not left.
Looking4ever

Oct 16 @ 10:08PM  
I think that death is only difficult for those of us left here. To feel that they are in a better place and not in pain is a great gift! Sure, you miss them but how comforting to feel that they are in a better place? I think it is probably hardest when you see someone die and feel they have a lot of life still left to experience.
ValentineGirl214

Oct 16 @ 10:14PM  
I grieve for my Dad every October,his birthday was on Halloween. The other months, I only seem to have great memories. But it took years to get to this point, he died in 1991. He died way to young, 54, and had never been sick, I think that makes it harder for me to understand why he had to go. Losing a loved one is never easy, but losing a parent or a child is the worst in my book.
Blackfromwaistdown

Oct 17 @ 12:34AM  
[Losing a loved one is never easy, but losing a parent or a child is the worst in my book.]

I would agree, but thankfully I have not had to go through that one yet. Srry for your loss as well.
Ewe_Wish

Oct 17 @ 1:03AM  
When my mom died (it will be two years at christmas) i spent thru the funeral mourning her until I remembered what she use to say, If the time we spent together meant anything to you, remember those times when I am gone, and i will still be with you. There are still times when things both happy and sad happen that I want to call her, and sometimes even pick up the phone and be in the process of dialing the phone when i remember she is gone, that use to make me sad and now i just think i dont have to tell her, she already knows..........

Everyone grieves in a different way, and just because you dont mourne for them right this second, doesnt mean there wont be some sad times later when you suddenly remember they are gone when you want to say something to them. just remember the inner peace you feel right now and it will come back to you then.
casuallylooking

Oct 17 @ 3:52AM  
First, let me say I am sorry for your losses.I think it is a good thing that you can be at peace with them passing. That does not take away from the fact that you loved them or miss them.
I am hoping that when I am gone my loved ones will miss me but not be miserable and sad spending their precious time mourning my death. I want them to rememebr how much I loved them and be happy for the life that I lived.
Blackfromwaistdown

Oct 17 @ 4:13AM  
Exactly, celebrate the life and be thankful you had the time with them you had. The memories created will last forever and so shall the people remembered.
Ashinatrix

Oct 17 @ 7:56AM  
If youre anything like me, then youre just in the numb stage.....and everything will hit sometime in the future........
dmbradley1978854

Oct 17 @ 1:04PM  
You can also celebrate about everything they did in their lives.

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