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posted 10/16/2007 1:52:09 PM |
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I recently had this really great business opportunity come to me. I have a friend I've known for about 3 years, he's an amazing artist, I can't emphasize that enough. Well, he went to this other shop for a while (2 years) and ended up working with a bunch of people there, the owner and him were tight.. he called me about 3 weeks ago saying he quit and that he wants to start up a shop here in the city and wants me to be an artist for him. Wow, that's fucking awesome. I mean, I could quit my jobs and just do that and work on school part time instead of full time. I thought everything was on the up and up, but I found out something.

He wanted me to change up his myspace page so he gave me the password and the email address so that I could go ahead and put some artwork up and change the details around. I thought he meant I could use the email address as a work one too but I saw something in there. I mean, I shouldn't have read one of the emails but I did. Turns out my friend (who's 42) didn't quit, well, he might have still quit, but turns out he was fucking his boss's daughter what i assume the entire time he worked with him and lived with him. There were all kinds of emails in there from her saying that she thought he loved her and that they were going to elope and have kids. I mean, what the fuck! This is fucking illegal and here I am looking at it because I snooped. I mean not really, I clicked on the first email because I thought it was related to the business venture we were supposed to be doing. I haven't signed any work contracts yet, he's supposed to be driving over in the next week to do it but he's got the business license and he's all registered with the state. What the fuck do I do?

Morally, this guy repulses me. I mean, we were chill at first, but I realized he lied to me for why he left his last shop. I even went as far as to announce that I'm starting this and gave my 2 weeks at one of my jobs. I want to get out of this deal but I'm not sure if I want him to know it's because I found out he was screwing around with a little kid. I don't really want to embarrass him, mostly because he's the type of guy to retaliate (he knows some shady shit about me) and I know if I call him on his crap he'll go above and beyond and let everyone know about mine. I feel fucking stupid for getting into the venture but at first I was so blinded with how great everything sounded and how fast he was putting it all together. I don't know if I can go through with this. If someone isn't morally put together chances are they're going to fuck their business partners. What do I do?

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sugarnspice005

Oct 16 @ 2:01PM  
I would tell him "thanks but no thanks"...and the other job you put the 2 weeks with....if you're in good standing with them....see if they will let you "take it back" and keep on working with them. This guy doesn't sound very trustworthy, and if he's the type to retaliate.....get out now before signing anything! If you haven't signed anything yet...then you're not obligated. Run while you still can. There is time later for classes at school etc....Don't get yourself involved in what appears to be a very ugly situation....

Oh, btw, if he asks why.....just tell him a friend advised you against it.
skinonskin

Oct 16 @ 2:07PM  
I had a business "partner" once whom I used to work with at a company! We both went out on our own. He called out of the blue asking me to do some service calls for him! This was last year in the summer! He gave me a check towards what he owes me and not a cent more since!

Long story short, I'm having to make an appointment with an attorney to explore my options! He owes me a pretty fair amount of money! It's not about friendship, it's about business!

I would be very careful what you get into, knowing what you know!

A way out is if he asks a fair amount of money to help with the business, then just tell him you don't have the money or, if he requests space or other assets you either don't or want to tie up, tell him you just can't swing it but I would run away fast!

rnj1013

Oct 16 @ 2:25PM  
You don't dip your pen in company ink. He did it once and he'll do it again. Go find someone else to be your partner or do it on your own. This guy will just bring you down in the long run.
ynot7769

Oct 16 @ 2:35PM  
runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

sounds like a bad move ...................and i think you know it now you know we agree


Lisa46

Oct 16 @ 2:53PM  
Tell him you don't think you can finacially do it at this time. And thank him again but your just not ready....
Wordsofwit

Oct 16 @ 2:55PM  
I more than agree with the others to the extent of saying it is a no brainer. Whenever you go into a biz with somebody you are vulnerable. Additionally, should he do anything to cause harm to a client, you can be sued for what he did.

Contract labor is rarely a good idea as you have no recourse if they welch. Always ask for a third up front of anything over $500.00 and bill at intervals to keep the balance low. If this is artistic work, maintain the creative rights in writing until you are paid.
Dominus

Oct 16 @ 3:52PM  
Make an anonymous report to the police about what you saw on the site. Tell them that you were given the password by the owner of the site and you were going there to see if there had been any messages left for you. That is completely legitimate.

If he is fooling around or soliciting an underage minor then THAT is much more important. Seriously, you have the opportunity to save someone's life here. That should obviously be the much more important issue at stake.
SraReynolds

Oct 16 @ 4:04PM  
One of the best things to do is tell the truth. Tell him that you are no longer interested in the business venture with him. If he asks why, then tell him you need to keep it personal. If he has any respect then he should do that. If he doesn't you may need to come clean on some of the shady stuff about you. I am sure that there can't be that bad about you. Don't take anything personally but try to be a good person to him.
kozmik_wave

Oct 16 @ 4:42PM  
If the girl is underage the last thing you want to do is go into business with a pedophile (technically speaking of course) that could get caught and go away for a very long time. If it were me I would call in an anonymous tip to the sex crimes people and get this dude off the streets.

If shes not underage it's really none of your business or mine...get everything in writing if you go into business and make damn sure there aren't any loopholes you can get screwed through. Make it clear that business is business as someone else said and where the money is concerned the friendship can't interfere.

I work for a friend of almost 20 years and sometimes it's really hard. We have been through some crap already that has jeopardized our friendship and it's clear that I need to move on because his business practices are pretty shady sometimes. We are on totally different planes as far as business, maybe I'm too honest for it but I can't bullshit clients or make up excuses for the company.

So what the fuck to do? Go with your gut. Be honest about it and preserve your friendship if it's really important to you...
austin4435

Oct 16 @ 5:02PM  
YOU HAVE TO DO THE RIGHT THING!...ITS NO LONGER ABOUT U OR YOUR JOBS OR YOUR SHADY SHIT ITS ABOUT THIS POOR INNOCENT CHILD WHO HAS BEEN EMOTIONALLY AND SEXUALY VICTMIZED PUT UR SELF IN THIS CHILDS SHOES U NEED TO PRINT OUT THE EMAIL AND CALL THE POLICE FORGET ABOUT UR SELF U WILL DO THE RIGHT THING OR BE HAUNTED BYTHE FACT THAT U DIDN'T UNTIL U DIE!
austin4435

Oct 16 @ 5:02PM  
YOU HAVE TO DO THE RIGHT THING!...ITS NO LONGER ABOUT U OR YOUR JOBS OR YOUR SHADY SHIT ITS ABOUT THIS POOR INNOCENT CHILD WHO HAS BEEN EMOTIONALLY AND SEXUALY VICTMIZED PUT UR SELF IN THIS CHILDS SHOES U NEED TO PRINT OUT THE EMAIL AND CALL THE POLICE FORGET ABOUT UR SELF U WILL DO THE RIGHT THING OR BE HAUNTED BYTHE FACT THAT U DIDN'T UNTIL U DIE!
funnygirl730

Oct 16 @ 5:09PM  
if this "kid" is underage i would not only not go into business with him i would see to it that the right people knew what he was up to.what he does back would not stop me as i am an adult and can protect myself not a kid.

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