Are you my friend or jsut someone I know??? Do you care about me as much as I do you???
These questions have been rolling thru my mind the past couple of days. I have many people I call friend and oodles I call acquaintances how do other people know the difference?? Lately I've wondered about those I call my friend.
I have some going thru troubled times in their love lives and other areas. When I ask I hear "I don't want to talk about it" well why the fuck not??? Aren't you my friend?? Weren't you there for me?? Why won't you let me be there for you?? Do you think I'm being nosey??? Fuck its because I care and if I can help I will. Why would you push me away?? I didn't push you away when my life was in shambles? Do you think I'd say I told you so?? Then you don't me like you should.
And what about the friend who is getting ready for a new job?? She hasn't called me in over a week?? I called her 4 times on Thursday and she never returned my calls?? I texted her today and said if your throwing away our friendship a kiss is usually called for. She texted sorry been busy??? WTF????  I always make time for those I care about and I demand the same respect. I have found out I don't chose men very well has my judgement in those I call friend also going to hell in a hand basket??? 
I miss the openess and love "friends" bring in my life. 
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ynot7769
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Oct 13 @ 10:28PM
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When I ask I hear "I don't want to talk about it" well why the fuck not???
welll cause for one only women talk away their problems.........not men..........yano "Men Are From Mars N Women Are From Venus" 
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loveableone
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Oct 13 @ 10:29PM
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All I can do is give you a big HUG and let you know I understand! When I moved to this town I found out who my true friends really were, because the ones that werent, never contacted me unless I contacted them. Most never returned phone calls, but it is no loss as I was getting away from that negativity anyways!! Just cherish the ones you know are true! 
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Ewe_Wish
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Oct 13 @ 10:30PM
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Lisa, just cause friends don't want to talk about what they are going thru doesnt mean that they dont love you and value your friendship...... sometimes things are just to painful to talk about...........when they have cried all the tears they can stand..........and are afraid that they will shed even more if they talk about it....sometimes its hard for friends to stand by and see a friend hurt.......and sometimes when a friend is hurting they dont want to worry a friend.....people handle their pain in different ways...............sorry if you feel alienatied by some of your friends.
I lubs ya I be Lisa.........
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Lisa46
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Oct 13 @ 10:30PM
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welll cause for one only women talk away their problems.........not men..........
I don't buy that!!! I refuse it my friends and I talk about everything and I value that men and women period!
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Lisa46
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Oct 13 @ 10:36PM
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sometimes its hard for friends to stand by and see a friend hurt.......and sometimes when a friend is hurting they dont want to worry a friend.....
It is even harder to see a friend suffer  And that also makes me worry but as a friend isn't worrying part of my job?? I love, value and worry that is all part of who I am.
I lubs you I be Dayna 
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ynot7769
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Oct 13 @ 10:49PM
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I don't buy that!!! I refuse it my friends and I talk about everything and I value that men and women period!
keep in mind your not agreeing dont make you right.........you can only stand in the place of a woman.............plain n simple........they're different...........
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alybai42
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Oct 13 @ 10:59PM
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I am still your friend. We talked today on the phone. Our saturday morning phone date.
I be Tammy 
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Fckmhrdtnght
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Oct 13 @ 11:16PM
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hugs.....
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Ashinatrix
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Oct 13 @ 11:40PM
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welll cause for one only women talk away their problems not all women.......
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casuallylooking
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Oct 14 @ 12:13AM
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Lisa, sometimes when someone is hurting or upset they just don't know what to say about it. To anyone.
I have two very best friends and the one has often said that I am sometimes as open as the ocean about things and other times you could break into Fort Knox easier than you could get me to talk about what is going on. She has learned that if and/or when I am ready to talk about something I will, but not until. She accepts this in me and knows I don't mean to shut her out. I would never in this world do anything to intentionally hurt her.
Just because you feel someone isn't telling you something or sharing their feelings with you doesn't mean they aren't a true friend or don't care deeply. Sometimes it just has nothing to do with you. And by that I do not mean You as specifically, just in general form. "You" being the friend inquiring.
I hope this all gets better for you.... And your friends If they are having problems.
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Wordsofwit
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Oct 14 @ 8:16AM
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If phone calls or emails are not returned, that says it all.
In the case of "friends" on here, it is not unlike "friends" in a church or social organization as the friendship is conditional. For example, in many cases when you cease being active in the church, the friendship evaporates.
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Lisa46
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Oct 14 @ 8:58AM
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In the case of "friends" on here, it is not unlike "friends" in a church or social organization as the friendship is conditional. For example, in many cases when you cease being active in the church, the friendship evaporates.
That WOW is hogwash!!! We've had members who have left for various reasons and I do still keep in touch maybe not daily like on here but we do keep in touch!
Shame on you for hinting that the people on here are shallow that ain't true!
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Wordsofwit
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Oct 14 @ 10:21AM
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Note that I said "in many cases". I did not say in "all" or even "most". My experience has been that there are people on here due to a void in their life. Once that void (boyfirend/girlfriend) is filled, they fade away.
Now there is an unusual contributing factor to this that I pointed out in a blog about the high proportion of members here proportionally from Indiana (where you reside), Ohio, and Michigan, often in more rural parts of those states. As a result it is clear to me that true friendships can develop in these geographies at a higher rate.
I certainly do not have anything quantifiable to support my statement beyond my observations. However, though you may keep in touch with people, you are but one person. One person's experience fails to convince me that my opinion is invalid.
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NachoBaby
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Oct 14 @ 10:50AM
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Lisa Love, you are beautiful from the core babe. And if people don't treasure you.. it's their loss.
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UWearMeOut
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Oct 14 @ 11:25AM
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I'm with you on this one. If they ask me what's wrong and I tell them, I expect the same from them. If they are always saying they don't want to talk about it, that puts me ill at ease with them. After awhile, I would stop talking to them as friendship is a two way street.
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DeDe54
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Oct 14 @ 1:42PM
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I am sorry you are going thru this Lisa. We all have friends and acquaintances, however, a true friend is always there for you, no matter what!
Where I live I have few friends, but the ones I do have are dear to my heart!
All of you have become my friends, and y'all are dear to me!
*would run thru the blog naked, but it didn't seem right at this point !!
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slohand_47
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Oct 15 @ 12:10AM
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I told myself to leave this one alone. sigh............
I have some going thru troubled times in their love lives and other areas. When I ask I hear "I don't want to talk about it" well why the fuck not??? Aren't you my friend?? Weren't you there for me??
You offered, they declined..... this isn't about you. IF they need space, shouldn't you... as a friend... be willing to give it? You said they were there for you. I take that to mean they gave what you asked for..... what you needed. So....... give what they need.... even if it is space right now. When they've processed it..... then they will still need a friend. Not grief.
That's all I have to say about that.
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lifeizabitch
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Oct 15 @ 9:15AM
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True friends are rare and unique. I can count mine on one hand.
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