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posted 10/2/2007 8:15:18 PM |
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I was having an interesting discusion with my friend the other day and he had some interesting points he beleaves that homosexuality is a choice and I beleave that its natural, just the way some of us are wired. Its actually something that occurs in nature its in other animals. What do you guys think?

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Oct 2 @ 8:24PM  
It is natural so does your friend think the right woman could "cure being gay"

Oct 2 @ 8:27PM  
I believe it's a genetic cross fire. Why would anyone CHOOSE to live a life in which they know they will be ridiculed etc. It's not a mistake however.. just a thing.. and who cares anyway?

Oct 2 @ 8:35PM  
My personal stance on this in discussions is "how would I know"... not to sound confrontational but I can't relate it to experience as a heterosexual.

I know we all have sexual turn-ons that are just what they are and we don't know why. So why not would it be for whatever reasons that sexually some would have attraction to attributes of the same sex. An involuntary choice?

But it's more than sexual... the aspect of emotional intimacy is where it gets complicated to comprehend. But another thing I always say... "To each their own and best wishes in your endeavors".

Oct 2 @ 8:41PM  
well said I think sometimes that the soul if u beleave in that sort of thing is genderless and the rest is just biology cuz the body is really just a vehicle.

Oct 2 @ 8:45PM  
Well your friend has his own opinion, but it's not a choice, it's natural.

Oct 2 @ 8:52PM  
I read a Time magazine article years ago, that stated that more babies than you know are born both sexes, then the Doctor plays God and decides what sex the child will be. New parents would never discuss this as "they want their baby to be perfect".

A few years later I was talking to a woman that worked with my Dad, she was a lesbian, and she was talking about all the "female" problems she had. She said she went to the DR and he examined her and asked her if when she was a child if she had surgery of some kind, she said she didn't think so. So that night she called her Mother and asked. Her Mother became very upset and admitted that she had been both and the Doctor had made the choice for her to be a girl as it would be easier!!!! Needless to say she was relieved when she found out, she finally had answers as to why she always thought of herself as a male instead of a female.

Oct 2 @ 9:17PM  
I actually took a Sociology-based course in college that discussed this issue in great detail. Upon doing some research of my own, I found the following (which was also covered in our textbooks that included tons of research on this very topic).

The top of the page states:
This paper reflects the research and thoughts of a student at the time the paper was written for a course at Bryn Mawr College. Like other materials on Serendip, it is not intended to be "authoritative" but rather to help others further develop their own explorations. Web links were active as of the time the paper was posted but are not updated.
However, the individual did include his/her research sources at the bottom of the page. I am sure that a combination of the sources included will give some further insight about the question at hand.



Oct 2 @ 9:47PM  
I think it's natural. You can't help it. But it's all about if you're gonna act on it.

Oct 2 @ 9:53PM  
I'm prone to believe it's genetic.....although, the majority of my gay male friends have overbearing and controlling mothers, and fathers who have no spine to speak of.
Kinda makes ya wonder........

Oct 2 @ 9:54PM  
I believe its natural and not a choice. I told my mom that my brother was going to be gay when he was 6 he is now 27 and been openly gay since high school.

Oct 2 @ 9:56PM  
What gender a person is attracted to is not a choice. Some homosexual men can choose to marry women and father children to avoid others from knowing their secret or to simply have children, probably not a wise choice. They will lead a double life and eventually divorce. I would not even think of becoming a homosexual and never have, there is just no interest in doing anything sexual with a man.

Oct 2 @ 10:02PM  
I heard a man say that it is a choice on the lifestyle itself. He said you dont choose whether you like the same sex or not, you choose what you do with that desire. Then the action becomes the choice...That is the only definition I can wrap my head around, the rest I dont understand...

I have friends that are gay and we heve talked about this, they say that they were born that way and who I am to judge when I have not walked in their shoes...

On the other hand, I am a little hypocritical about this subject...I am a lesbian and dont really see what women see in men, but glad they do...

Oct 2 @ 10:18PM  
I believe that the desires of sex are driven by the act of us trying to reproduce!I believe that each of us actually has people with certain characteristics and magnetisms that we are naturally drawn to them. They are usually the one you have the most fear of approaching because of fear of rejection so you settle with someone with a little different magnetism.I think you will find that if you approach the one you truly are attracted to and not because of insecurities you will find that they are attracted to you also!A deep person will end up with a deep person with the right traits and a shallow with another shallow. Alot of times because of fear of rejection a deep person will go after the shallow with the right traits but wrong magnetism because it feels safer but leads to a bad marriage with bad communication and bad sex!And Vice Versa!Just my opion.That and a couple of quarters will get you a cup of coffee at starbucks.!

Oct 3 @ 2:17AM  
Homosexuality is caused by posting too many blogs at adultfriendfinder. It can also be caused by simply participating too often in the blogs. So guys, if you find yourself suddenly thinking of men and possibly their private parts while participating in the blogs, you may consider immediately logging off of AMD and STAYING AWAY from the blogs for awhile! Now that I think about it...I BETTER LEAVE as I've been typing this a while now...

Oct 3 @ 3:26AM  
I'm Bi. I'm attracted to women more so then men. But I believe it's about as genetic as being a pedophile.

Oct 3 @ 7:16AM  
I believe it's about as genetic as being a pedophile
Interesting comparison.....

Oct 3 @ 11:55AM  
I don't think that our sexuality is a choice. While don't know if it is necessarily genetic or not, I believe that it is something we are born with.
Research suggests that homosexual orientation is in place very early in the life cycle, possibly even before birth. It is found in about ten percent of the population, a figure which is surprisingly constant across cultures, irrespective of the different moral values and standards of a particular culture ("Statement on Homosexuality", American Psychological Association 2001)

As you said in your initial post, homosexuality is something that is seen in nature. When someone has a male dog that is attracted to another male dog, people often just laugh at it and say the dog is "confused". I don't really think that is the case. Animals use sex for "mating" more so than for pleasure. Their main goal is usually to reproduce. Of course, reproduction can not happen if a male is having sex with another male. I just think that is is something that is present when we are born, whether it be genetic or hormonal or something else altogether.

Oct 16 @ 6:31PM  
I have an opinon of people that think homosexuality is a choice:

I think they are most likely uneducated, somewhat twisted on the far religious 'right', likely homophobic and not the kind of person that I'd want to spend anytime with... ....


Feb 8 @ 4:49PM  
being interested in the same sex just happens nothing you can do about it trust me I know for a fact. being I am bisexual I know it is something you can't help but to live with

Feb 16 @ 9:15PM  
I agree with hotguy4fun03607!!! That is my scenario and my opinion as well!

Mar 19 @ 4:24PM  
I too believe it is in the genetics. I have a friend in TN who was one of 13 kids who were all given up for adoption. Once grown they all found each other and 5 of the 13 are gay. Coincidence? I think not!!

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