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posted 9/15/2007 12:54:36 PM |
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I just got out of a relationship with a guy I met on an adult website other than AMD. Since I'm not sure why we split up, I've been analyzing every last detail because you know that hindsight is 20/20!
As I look back over the sex life during that six month period, I realized I can count on TWO fingers the number of times he came inside me. All his other orgasms were the result of a hand job - performed by HIS hand!
He would instruct me to lie beside him, so that my breasts were touching him. He would then put his arm around me. He wanted me to kiss him deeply, and by deeply I mean "porno tongue" (for those that have seen The Wedding Singer). He would then proceed to jack off, pulling me in closely and holding me tightly, until he came.
His cock was a bit on the small side (which did not matter to me at all) and he never seemed to have a problem getting it up, as he rounds third and heads for home for his 50th birthday this month.
So I guess what I'm wondering is, why would he opt to give himself a hand job over cumming inside me? I'm thinking 1. Because he is small he doesn't experience enough sensation to bring him to orgasm 2. I didn't excite him enough to produce an orgasm 3. He has some kind of issue with sex in general and is a total freak
So I thought I'd ask your opinions. What do you think about this issue? Am I overreacting in thinking there was something wrong? Or am I hitting the mark? Any insight you can give me will be greatly appreciated!

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Sep 15 @ 1:08PM  
maybe he has a phobia??? I went out with a gorgeous man who lost his erection unless HE was jackin himself off....All he wanted me for was to suck on my bewbies???? needless to say he's gone! history! bye bye!....But hey that is part of the dating game. Dated the guy for 3 months before we had sex

Sep 15 @ 1:55PM  
I don't have an issue with using my own hand to get myself hard (blowjobs usually do the trick), but my cock is for the woman's/women's pleasure. I don't have a small dick, so I wouldn't know about that. Any woman that is willing to excite me excites me. He sounds like a selfish freak, but I'd need to hear both sides of the story. I think you are overreacting. Overreacting is good with a feeling.

Sep 15 @ 2:36PM  
#3 in so far as he has issues. I wouldn't call him a total freak.... because people are just different. To each their own.
It appears he is mostly into self gratification... so good riddance. Find someone who wants to share!

Sep 15 @ 5:53PM  
You didn't say how long you had intercourse or if he did oral on you. Was it satisfying for you other than him not coming inside you as wanted? There could be a few reasons why he didn't or couldn't come inside you. Maybe it's a fear of a woman getting pregnant or it could very well be that he simply couldn't. I have a very difficult coming from intercourse or oral. I have no problem getting and staying hard for a long time and probably all that is because of masturbation and age. Intercourse doesn't give as much sensation as one's own hand, we get used to our own hand after doing that almost every day. Women just think it must be because the man is not excited enough or into them, that's not the case especially if he has a hardon for you all the time. If he didn't get hard...well that could be an indication of not really interested. Yeah, I know that is the reason I have been dumped a few times, sad bacause I really did like the women. There was nothing wrong with the women.
For more info google "delayed ejaculation".

Sep 15 @ 6:58PM  
Another from a mans perspective -

I do jack off alot and fuckin love it. I don't FUCK enough, unfortunately.

A few times with a few ladies I had problems getting into it. Which I am sure is because of too much masturbation, nervousness and alcohol a few tims too maybe :)

Fuck, I'd rather cum in a nice wet pussy anyday. Its fuckin hot having an orgasm when my cocks in a hole - any hole. Hell, if needed I'd jack off then put it back in her pussy to cum, if thats what she wanted and thats what it took.

Don't worry hon, sounds like he's just into himself a little too much. He loses aye.

Apr 14 @ 11:37AM  
Better late thatn never, but I'm going for number 3. Simple reason being (no offense here guys, just bear in mind I'm pigeon holing myself aswell ok? OK.) most guys who resort to the internet to forge relationships are, more or less, freaks anyway...

I'm gonna get flamed now.......

Apr 14 @ 1:10PM  
What if you simply left it at has some issues?? You don't really explain what if any focus was given to you during these encounters so it's hard from this distance to know.

Have videos?

It sound like some issues...but issues don't make one a total freak, they simply make someone with issues. If you don't know why you brokeup, then it would follow even more so that he has issues with intimacy. But again...who knows?

That you come to the web site to ask the questions, seems to suggest that you didn't ask them of him. Wouldn't that be an issue as well?? i.e., neither of you had strong communication skills in this shared space??

Personally, I can't imagine choosing my hand over dark, moist warm caverns with teeth or not. But hey...that's my issue!

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