it seems to me these days that it is very hard to connect with a special lady
these days.i would think that most ladies want a man that would treat them
like a princess and still be man enough to hold his in this world.i have seen many
nice ladies with men that were serious jerks.i think alot of ladies like jerks.lol.
but i think that most ladies would want a man that really respects them and shows
them love all the time.i gues that would be one way to win some woman's heart.
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ValentineGirl214
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Sep 4 @ 7:36PM
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Blu, I think the problem is, is that women have become so independent. Working and supporting themselves and never having to answer to anyone but themselves. I don't want anyone telling me what I can and can't do. I think that's part of my problem. I have been on my own raising my daughter and just didn't want the trouble or dedication of being with a man full time. My daughter was and is my 1st priority. Now that she is a little older, my feelings have changed. I would like a decent man in my life, but I may have trouble taking orders from anyone. 
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499BLU
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Sep 4 @ 7:48PM
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i think u have a very good point.most ladies dont want to ever be dependent upon anyone.thats how it should be.it should also be that way for a man. ideally a
relationship should be 50/50 partnership.i know most are not like that.i think that
it really would be a very special blessing to meet someone special.its just seems
very hard these days.i think the man that won ur heart would truly be a very blessed and happy man:)
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Angel_45304
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Sep 4 @ 8:13PM
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Women have had no choice be to become independent. But for myself is I don't want a man to "take care" of me. It would be nice to find one that will stand beside you, be there for you when you need a shoulder, be there in the dark of night when you are afraid and lonely. On the other side of the coin thats what a women should do for a man too.
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Loveyoulongtime2
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Sep 4 @ 8:20PM
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I think what ValentineGirl214 said is true. Also, It is much harder at our age to find a woman who has not had so many bad experiences with men that they will not easily give another man a chance, and anything that would interfere with their independence is not going to work. They like their independence too much to have a real relationship, this seems to be the case with a lot of older women. Maybe it is the same way for most older men also. 
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NachoBaby
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Sep 4 @ 8:42PM
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Step 1... Ceddy... learn to love yourself. Not just kinda like who you are.. but LOVE you.. and you and I both know this is gonna be work for you.
Step 2... Ceddy.. love yourself.
Step 3... then apply that love to someone else.. and you will have it whooped baby luv.
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Polonius1
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Sep 4 @ 8:56PM
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A 50/50 partnership sounds ideal. Unfortunately it's never a 50/50 life. What is missing in all of this is, in my humble opinion, the moost important ingredient. Respect. The minute that is waning or gone, it's nearly impoossible to restore. Love is a great notion but horribly flawed. Respect is far more concrete and,, dare I say, 'viable' trait to strive for.
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Polonius1
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Sep 4 @ 8:58PM
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Ok, so when one has a cheap keyboard that (all of its own volition!) adds letters,.... makes typing a quick note become an editing nightmare. (all those vowels,....and I'm not even Dutch!!)
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31sunshine
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Sep 4 @ 9:49PM
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It takes a lot of things, several of which are already noted:
1. LOVE & LIKE YOURSELF. It doesn't work without this key element.
2. Stand beside me, not in front of me or behind me, beside me. Which means support me in ways that are essential to my life. How do you do that? By accepting me for who and what I am, and not as someone who has "potential". If you really accept me, then you'll really know me, and supporting me in the ways I need will be apparent.
3. Know love is never 50/50. But love does compensate when the scale is off balance. Meaning, I'm there for my partner when and how he needs me, and vice versa.
4. Polonius hit this on the head for me; respect. It's one thing to love a person, it's another to respect the person they are. When you live without respect in a relationship it's doomed to fail.
I think overall what I'm trying to say is this:
For me I need someone I can be myself with. Someone I'm not worried about how I said this, or did I do that enough. No, I'm just being me, faults and all. And he does the same. And when I'm in need, he asks me what I need from him, and follows through (even if it's just an ear). And when he's having a bad day, I don't badger him. I give him space to resolve things on his own and come to me when he's ready (which is exactly what he needs from me). We've taken the time to get to really know each other, trust and respect each other to give space when necessary, to push when we need pushing. Which makes it so easy to trust him to a level I've never trusted another person before. I respect him for being just who he is, and allowing me to be just me. And I love the man, who I'm so comfortable with it seems I've known him for ages, and he I. And everyday I get up and ask myself what I can do this day to make sure he knows I love him to the depths of my heart, and I follow through.
Just my .02 cents. 
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isitgrog
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Sep 4 @ 11:29PM
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I like Sunshine's list, but feel there should be one more: Do not keep score. If you spend all your time counting what I did for her and what she has done for me, you lose valuable time that you could have enjoyed each other. And doesn't the score keeping almost always come out in fights and in nagging. Both sexes are equally guilty of both. Find every way to make the other's life easier and more enjoyable.
Sunshine, that was better than $.02.
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