A very close friend of my husbands passed away in Dec. 06. Never knew the circumstances of his death as I lost connection with them after my husband passed away. I tried to get ahold of his girlfriend but there just was no way. The obit in the paper gave no info what so ever, and her number was not in the phone book.
Well today at work his mother and brother come into the clinic. I expressed how sorry I was to hear of his death. I told her how I tried to get ahold of his girlfriend but was unable too. As she began to talk I could tell how angry she was. Come to find out that he had overdosed but told his girlfriend what he did, he passed out shortly after. She leaves him and goes out partying, to return to find him still passed out, so she leaves him where he lays. The next morning she gets up to find that he is dead!! I know in all the time that I had known them as a couple there had never been any love loss between them, but to actually know that you could have prevented the death of your childrens father is uncomprehendable to me. His mother did try and have her charged but was told there was nothing that could be done because he had taken the meds himself!!
Even if I disliked someone that much I know there is no way I could actually sit by and watch there life pass away!! Another thing I don't understand is how she could not be charged, she must have ultimately know what could possibly happen!
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NightOfOld
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Aug 7 @ 8:35PM
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If I had the chance to save someones life and didn't do it.
No I could not live with it. It would haunt me for ever.
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BigFlirt
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Aug 7 @ 8:54PM
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It amazes me how cold blooded people can be....
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ValentineGirl214
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Aug 7 @ 8:57PM
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I couldn't do that!! I could leave his ass there and go call 911, but not leave him to die!!
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Ewe_Wish
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Aug 7 @ 9:06PM
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Ok Zena I agree that a person that is a real human being couldnt watch someones life pass away. You said that you had lost communication with them after your husband passed away and that happens often. but let me show you another side that you might want to take into consideration not that it lets her off the hook but I know of a lady whose husband was addicted to prescription meds. Now it wasnt that he was just addicted to them, he doctor shopped so he could get lots of the same prescriptions and abused them. he had a tendency to overdose all the time. He would tell his wife i took a hundred hydrocordone and she would call the squad and many times it was true he had. But there were alot of times he hadn't. Thier marriage was falling apart because of the drug problem and the more she tried to help the more he became helpless. After she left him, he would call her in the middle of the night and tell her he overdosed and she would call the ambulance and they would go pick him up. sometimes he had sometimes he hadnt. finally she told him she wasnt going to be his fall back plan anymore, got her number changed and guess what he never overdosed again. You will never know the true story of what happened, but if he had been doing this off and on, threatening to overdose and than finding out that he hadn't, she might have just thought he was probably pulling it over her again. I'm not saying its right sweetie, but you weren't there, his family wasnt there so she is the only one who knows the truth and she is probably never going to tell it.
Sorry about the loss of your friend. 
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redbronze
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Aug 7 @ 9:16PM
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This is perhaps one of the most effed up things I have read today.. In the states she would be charged with at least failure to render aid.. To do this is incomprehensible at best and I cannot believe that no charges could be made...
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Wordsofwit
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Aug 7 @ 9:17PM
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Their life is not yours, sometimes reality does not inspie. Do you recall the magnificent, well known "Serenity Prayer"? I thought so.
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DesertSmile
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Aug 7 @ 9:46PM
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For me, no I could not simply walk away like that. But I also know the world is cruel and to many there is no value in life.
On the other hand I can side with Dayna, we don't know the dynamics of that relationship and even if the details and events leading to his death are accurate. All his family knows is that his death may have been preventable.....this time.
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lickrick
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Aug 7 @ 11:05PM
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How about charing her with assisted suicide like dr. kovorkian? I'm nore how to spell it.
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buatbu
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Aug 7 @ 11:30PM
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I would try and help most people but there are a few people who I would not mind seeing dead. And No, I don't know them personally, I'm talking about terrorist, little kid's rapists. I would not kill them but I would watch them die and still live with myself.
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bentan
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Aug 8 @ 3:08AM
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Sounds like the girlfriend is living in her own (drug-induced?) world. Perhaps when one reaches a certain level of wretchedness it is possible to view life and death in self and others with complete apathy.
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patrick2369
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Aug 8 @ 7:50AM
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To much partying will callouse the brain.
Or she's a cold hearted B..... 
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Ironhide
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Aug 8 @ 2:31PM
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Well Zena we live in a world were people can be very cruel and cold hearted. I agree with Looking4 fun when she says that we do not know the circumstances of the situation. But whatever they were does not give her the right to just let another person die when she could have saved them. She did not make him take whatever it is he took to od. But what she did was murder and she should be bought to justice. I would never be able to live with myself knowing I could have helped someone if they had died and I could have saved them. There was this guy I used to work with that me and alot of other coworkers hated. He was an asshole to everybody. December of last year when I was working with the guy he had a heart attack right in front of me.Even though I contimplated just leaving him there I did everything I could to help the guy. He later died in the hospital. The point of me saying this is no matter how much we are fet up or dislike a person. We are all human beings. It is not our choice of who dies or lives. I do beleive in giving tough love to those we care about when necessary. But letting someone die is not that.
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Lisa46
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Aug 8 @ 7:22PM
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I'm sorry sweetie but as the other said before me. SHE has to live with what she did. YOU can remember your friend with kind thoughts
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xdcfx
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Jan 29 @ 11:52AM
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Hi, I know this blog has been written some time ago, but I didnt read it till now, cause I'm a newbie. however it kinda hit me reading it, because something similar happen in my life as well, and my heart goes out to all involved.
However in certain places I do know there is a law that does require you to even report a crime if you are wittiness to it, or you yourself could be charges with basically not being a good citizen.
Besides, if Dr. Kevorkian (not sure I spelled that right) can be charged with assisting people in their suicides, even though they are themselves administer the drug, then I see no reason why she could not be brought to justice.
In the news just recently, was a story you may have even heard yourself, about EMT's and EMS allowing a young lady to die on the side of the road because they assumed she was not going to survive her injuries caused by being struck by a drunk driver.
They covered her with a tarp, even though she was alive. (moaning, and crying for help) did a shift change, and allowed her to suffer, while they stood there giving her no medical attention for two and a half hours, until she passed away from her injuries.
point of the story is, if they can be charged for such a thing, (as I believe they should be. They are just as bad, if not worst than the drunk driver who caused the accident to begin with) Then this mans girlfriend should be as well. Even though no amount of money can replace a loved one, I do believe his family can sue her personally for her actions.
This just may be my opinion, and it seems as though my opinion is shared.
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