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I was thinking about trust today..........when I was young, we left the doors open, the windows open, could sleep on the porch and no one bothered you , no worries walking thru the parking lots, no locking gas caps,we just trusted with blind faith. Now you can swear on a stack of bibles and people still squint wondering just what your up to .....People come here and immediatly they are scrutinized,if you have a photo, folks check to see if it looks recent and if you stretch your age one way or the other, looking for photo shop enhancements, and if you dont post your pic, then omg......your the worst ever.... that is by not allowing scrutiny.... if you say you have money or make good money, nobody believes you , and if you have none, or make very little ,you have absolutely ZERO chance again ....

Have we all been so burnt by society that we think EVERYBODY is out to get us? Or is it that we think we have so much to offer that we are above approach ? I want the days back when you could trust what people told you , you could actually love your neighbor as your own .....I want to sleep without sleep aids. I want to see you as your present yourself ......... Reckon thats possible yall? Ever gonna be a peaceful day in society again ?

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Jul 26 @ 1:53PM  
Oh to have those days back again when you actually felt safe no matter what you did or where you were but I don't see it happening. Hell every day seems to get worse. Kind of makes me wonder what this old world will be like by the time my kids are my age. Great blod Maggie and a kudo for you sugar.

Jul 26 @ 1:54PM  
I guess we have...

since we think Big Brother is constantly watching us then we have becomed conditioned to watch and question everything else.

I blame the expansion of information on this. The innonence is gone since we fill the need to expose more and more about people. The "heroes" becomes the fool and the "rebel" becomes the flag-bearer of a generation in the process.

For instance, George Reeves dies 2 generations ago and no one cares. We have a movie about it out recently that exposes the doubt surrounding the cause of death. We are more interested now than when the event ever happened...

compare that with...

Chris Benoit's death. Here is a athletic circus performer (wrestler) who people know more about now that he is dead than they ever did while he was alive. The story is alive and well because it is more fun to question what little answers we have and spectulate on answers we haven't received to questions that we are still formulating because we want to lay blame on someone else who we are sure is corrupt even though we are unclear who to identity with the blame (run-on sentence on purpose to emphasize point).

The ability to inform isn't really to inform at all, it is only to keep us on guard and...


Great blog! Excellent insight!

Jul 26 @ 2:11PM  
I miss the days of leaving my car unlocked as well as my house doors. Sleeping with the windows wide open. Running into the store with the motor still running so the car stayed cool, again with the doors unlocked! Or just walking across the parking lot at WalMart late at night without having keys and alarm button in my hand and looking around with suspicions the entire way! To be able to pick up a hitchhiker and help out a fellow human being along their way. Or to pull up to a car broken down on the side of the road and offer assistance, without the window just barely cracked open or even driving on by without stopping at all! It's a sad state that our world is in now that you have to place such a high premium on personal safety, that you can't take everyone you meet at face value.

Jul 26 @ 2:16PM  
I remember my mama held my hand so tight it caused sweat to bead in my palm , she did that to keep me from being ran over , now I do it for fear someone would snatch my child .......

Jul 26 @ 2:22PM  
guess the changes in our world have not all been for the better............the microwave...good...................kiddie freaks....BAD.................jeez...hell of a trade off........

Jul 26 @ 2:24PM  
sometimes ya find trust is the begining.....the foundation of even more ...........and its amazing!!

Jul 26 @ 2:25PM  
I am Elmer J Fudd, I own a mansion and a yacht...oops, did I say Elmer Fudd? I meant Brad Pitt


I can only speak for myself here, but I don't really trust anyone on-line. I tell outrageous lies. My whole profile is a lie...but I don't think anyone's taking it seriously.

On the other hand, there are people who want you to believe they are someone that they are not.

If anyone really cared, I would tell them about me but ... nobody really cares *urp*

just tryin to get a chuckle is malice

Politicians, clergy, law enforcement...they all lie to us. They are the very pillars of society? Yeah, trust doesn''t come easy these days...

In regards to what I believe or don't believe about others...umm...I don't care cuz I'm not "looking". I'm slowly getting to know some people here via e-mails, and as long as I remain objective, I think I'm a pretty good judge of character. It's still very hard to know people on-line though. Hell, it's hard enough to know someone you live with.


Jul 26 @ 2:43PM  
if you say you have money or make good money, nobody believes you , and if you have none, or make very little ,you have absolutely ZERO chance again ....

Sorry Mags this one I don't believe I don't care what a mans checkbook looks like. If he is a good man and works hard that should be enough for any woman

Jul 26 @ 2:48PM  

Jul 26 @ 2:53PM  
Guess the Bob Dylan song ... 'The Times They Are A-Changin'' (1964) is as true today as it was in '64...

The Times They Are A-Changin'

Come gather 'round people
Wherever you roam
And admit that the waters
Around you have grown
And accept it that soon
You'll be drenched to the bone.
If your time to you
Is worth savin'
Then you better start swimmin'
Or you'll sink like a stone
For the times they are a-changin'.

Come writers and critics
Who prophesize with your pen
And keep your eyes wide
The chance won't come again
And don't speak too soon
For the wheel's still in spin
And there's no tellin' who
That it's namin'.
For the loser now
Will be later to win
For the times they are a-changin'.

Come senators, congressmen
Please heed the call
Don't stand in the doorway
Don't block up the hall
For he that gets hurt
Will be he who has stalled
There's a battle outside
And it is ragin'.
It'll soon shake your windows
And rattle your walls
For the times they are a-changin'.

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don't criticize
What you can't understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is
Rapidly agin'.
Please get out of the new one
If you can't lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin'.

The line it is drawn
The curse it is cast
The slow one now
Will later be fast
As the present now
Will later be past
The order is
Rapidly fadin'.
And the first one now
Will later be last
For the times they are a-changin'.

Jul 26 @ 2:54PM  
course there are exceptions to every rule......

Jul 26 @ 3:09PM  
I realize this is for the younger generation, but I really like this song, fits the blog well ...

Waiting On The World To Change"

Me and all my friends
We're all misunderstood
They say we stand for nothing and
There's no way we ever could

Now we see everything that's going wrong
With the world and those who lead it
We just feel like we don't have the means
To rise above and beat it

So we keep waiting
Waiting on the world to change
We keep on waiting
Waiting on the world to change

It's hard to beat the system
When we're standing at a distance
So we keep waiting
Waiting on the world to change

Now if we had the power
To bring our neighbors home from war
They would have never missed a Christmas
No more ribbons on their door
And when you trust your television
What you get is what you got
Cause when they own the information, oh
They can bend it all they want

That's why we're waiting
Waiting on the world to change
We keep on waiting
Waiting on the world to change

It's not that we don't care,
We just know that the fight ain't fair
So we keep on waiting
Waiting on the world to change

And we're still waiting
Waiting on the world to change
We keep on waiting waiting on the world to change
One day our generation
Is gonna rule the population
So we keep on waiting
Waiting on the world to change

We keep on waiting
Waiting on the world to change


Jul 26 @ 3:23PM  
I seem to have been able to make the transition pretty easily and safely, too. I still help people with car problems, it's called stopping and offering a cell phone OR I call someone for them, if they appear like I might not get the phone back, but sometimes LOOKS are deceiving, so I try not to judge by that. I only bought a locking gas cap because the idiot security my hospital~ that covers every inch of the building inside and out~ let someone take a whole brand new tank of gas and told me, "We didn't have the cameras pointed that way today." 84TV cameras and they can't watch the ER parking lot! I am careful but that is just what comes with these times and as much as I wish I was size 6 again I am not and probably will be a 10 the rest of my life.....I work out daily but time takes its toll and things move south a bit.
I have even had good luck in love on the internet after some doozies~~met a MD who is a life fitness coach too, and we work out together.....he's building us a new house in the NC mtns on a lake and we'll spend summers there and the winters and school year in West Palm Beach, FL with me working at his pain management practice as his nurse. It just took time and kissing lots of frogs and NOT SETTLING to end up with the Prince! You just can't give up! Patience helped me, too. When I stopped looking, he fell on top of me....really!

Jul 26 @ 3:27PM  
I was thinking about trust today..........when I was young, we left the doors open, the windows open, could sleep on the porch and no one bothered you , no worries walking thru the parking lots, no locking gas caps, we just trusted with blind faith.

Sad as it is to say Mags, for the most part...those days are far gone. Not totally, but for the most part we'll never see those days again. However, I don't agree with you, or others completely.

As it's not totally a world of days gone by, as it's not that way everywhere. I live in a small town, and don't lock my doors...I can leave my windows wide open. I can sleep on the porch (deck for me, or in my hammock) I can also walk the streets without having to look over my shoulder.

Then again, I do live in a small I can't compare it to living in a big city.


I still run into the store with the motor still running so the car stays cool, and with the doors unlocked! I still pick up a hitch-hikers, and help out my fellow man/woman along their way. I still pull up to a car broken down on the side of the road and offer my assistance.

Am I a bit more cautious than I was 20 some years ago, of course. But I still have at least a little faith in my fellow man/woman. Even if it is getting harder to do with each passing year...

Now as for what you said about that I can agree with 100%! And that's the part I find even more sad...than what the shape our world/society is in today!

People are no longer judged solely on who and what we are as a person, we're now judged on what we have, or don't have. No, not for ALL or by ALL, but for MOST...*sighs*

I'd go into that a little deeper, but that's for another time...


Jul 26 @ 4:12PM  
Well, let's get the pragmatic out of the way...there is nothing in this house in a peaceful neighborhood that anyone would want. Secondarily, it is protected by 250 pounds of canine firepower including a rottie.
Today is not yesterday and what the nation, state, city has evolved in to is the present reality of your reality. The changes may or not be positive, but one must adjust to them as best that they can. We cannot change the reality over all, but we can be proactive in our personal reponse.

Jul 26 @ 4:59PM  
Trust but verify.

Jul 26 @ 5:31PM  
I lived in the city not the subburbs. OMG was it ever horrible. Gangs, prostitutes, drug busts, murders...all this happening around our home. We moved to the subburbs in 2000. I was kinda freaked out by how quite it was, but, i loved it...i could leave my car out all night, unlocked even. I could run to the store and not lock up the house like Ft Knox. I know live in an even smaler town.

A week ago while sitting in a fast food restaurant an older woman came in holding a sheet of paper. We saw her go up to the counter and ask a few people in line a few questions, then asked the employees there a few questions. We couldnt hear what she was asking, so just figured it was none of our business. She left, but, came back in a few minutes later. She walked right up to our table and asked me and my husband if we could give her directions to the hospital, we started to give her the directions and then i said "why dont we just have you follow us, we live just a minute from there and we were just about finished eating anyway". You could tell by the look on her face that she wasnt quite sure what to think. Could she trust us to actually take her all the way to the hospital or were we gonna sike her out and take her somewhere completely of course. So we traveled the easiest roads, the main roads, upon approaching the hospital, we slowed down, my hubby rolled his window down pointed to the hospital, we both looked in our rear view mirrors and she waved in appreciation, he waved back and a minute later we arrived at home.

I know trust doesnt come easy in alot of situations...but it does have to start somewhere.

Jul 26 @ 6:39PM  
Great blog, Mags. I gave you a kudo.

Jul 26 @ 7:17PM  
Nothing meaningful to add without opening a new can of worms so I'ma just kudo ya and walk away...

Jul 26 @ 7:56PM  
Since you asked, we are raising a whole generation of sociopaths. They don't have limits and boundaries because parents are afraid to teach them limits and boundaries. When you live in a world where hugging a child can put you in jail... unwanted physical contact, there is very little hope for the future. I shudder to think that this generation will be the ones 'caring for us' when we are old and infirm..

Jul 26 @ 8:00PM  
Nacho is absolutely right, I have two girls and I believe what they say 99.9% of the time, but I also know when they tell things for thier own best interest.

Jul 26 @ 9:11PM  
Maggie, I trust everyone until they prove to me they aren't worthy of that trust. It does cause the problem of letting people take advantage of you however, I decided long ago this was my nature and I would have to deal with the fact that some will betray this trust knowingly and willingly. Once trust is broken it is rarely restored.

Jul 26 @ 10:12PM  
This'll be twice this week that I find this particular quote appropriate...

"When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace." -Jimi Hendrix

If we can't even work together on a space mission without making it about who builds the best ICBMs, it's a long shot that we can look at our neighbor and call him "brother".

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