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posted 7/24/2007 6:54:14 PM |
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How dare I, or anyone for that matter, tell another person how to live their life? I would not want anyone to tell me what to do, think or say, what gives me the right , or anyone else, to do that to another. Don't judge others unless you wish to be judged yourself!


Who am I to tell you not to do something for someone you care about because i think its not right? Who is to say I know what is right and wrong? I can only make decisions for myself, I can not make your decisions.


If you think this is a bit cryptic take a moment and think on it you might think otherwise.

I wrote this after a friend commented that I didn't give him/her hell for certain things that they had done. and it got me to thinking why should I be that persons judge, jury and whatever?

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JJN4Fun

Jul 24 @ 6:57PM  
*big sigh* Have I told you lately that I love you?
NightOfOld

Jul 24 @ 6:59PM  

Have I told you lately that I love you?

Must I tell you once again somehow ?
plaidskirtluver

Jul 24 @ 8:03PM  
well, here's a thought for you....if EVERYONE, thoughout history, had lived their own lives....and never told anyone else
don't do that
or
i know better than you

we would still, most likely, be slinging our turds at eat other while eating raw meat outside the hut.

just a thought ;)

bentan

Jul 24 @ 8:12PM  
I like to think there is some difference between respectfully airing our opinions, suggestions and advice with others, and foisting the same down other people's throats in an insulting and supercilious way. In the end, decisions must be individually made but there should still be room for discussion and sharing; that is one of the ways that people can grow and learn from one another. To me, respect for the other person must always be part of the foundation for fruitful communication.
JJN4Fun

Jul 24 @ 8:38PM  
we would still, most likely, be slinging our turds at eat other while eating raw meat outside the hut.

I think you're missing the point. What I'm getting is less about "cultural evolution" and more about individual choices and others trying to influence them rather forcefully with what they think is right, best, good, etc...

Going along with a good idea, concept, or necessity is very different than being coerced, or shamed, or bullied into a belief, action...or inaction...simply because someone else says that's the way it should be. I could be wrong, that's what I got out of this.

My motto:

Tell me what to do and I'll tell you where to go. Suggest and I might listen.
plaidskirtluver

Jul 24 @ 9:37PM  
well, to be fair, i did understand your point. and, i'd assert that 'cultural evolution' happens at the individual level. it just has to happen ALOT at that level before it becomes accepted as a social or behavioral norm.

beyond that, i'd agree completely that - all things considered - tactful suggestion, setting a good example and encouragement to overcome failures are always the best ways to influence others. that said, however, in many instances you do not have the 'best option' available to you. you have your choice between a lousy option and a crappy one. case in point: your friend is at the bar, she is really enamoured with a guy that gives you the creeps. (like serial killer creeps). what are you going to do?

another example is when someone is abusing a homeless person on the street, shoving them and whatnot. what will you do?

sometimes there are valid reasons to interject yourself in the lives of others. and sometimes there are simply no better options available to you. that's the fun of life :)

zaralyon

Jul 24 @ 10:09PM  
Plaid your not getting it. i'm just saying its not right to tell someone how to live his life, only the other person can, he/she has to live with himself and his/her choices, not me. It is ok to give opinions, but not ok to give the other person hell because they don't live their life according to your or my morals. That person may have very good reasons to do what they are doing or plan on doing.
plaidskirtluver

Jul 24 @ 10:57PM  
lol. look. i DO get it.


BUT

i still think there are situations where intervention isn't just warranted, it's required. life isn't black and white. the rules are not as clear as you pretend them to be ;)

just my opinion.

believe me...i understand where you are coming from....i simply disagree with you. :)

alybai42

Jul 25 @ 9:39AM  
I don't tell other's how to live their lives.

I don't like people telling me how to live mine.

Lately when I have been talking to the few friends I do have all I hear is "you need to do this or you need to do that" I know what I need to do and I will get it done.

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