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posted 7/19/2007 5:06:26 PM |
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  PrincessKissy

Lately lots of little things have been building up hurt and anger within me, somewhat like a pile of dry kindling at my feet. Yesterday someone said something that was like a match, flaring up that kindling. Then another person poured a bit of lighter fluid on the fire. I’m trying hard to deal with this stuff on my own, without drawing others into it, however, I’ve been told by someone that I am overreacting by feeling anger at being hurt.

How do you keep from being angry when someone hurts you emotionally?

How do you keep innocent bystanders from being hurt when you are lashing out? Apparently one of my friends feels that because I don’t want to talk to anyone right now, I am upset with her.

The truth is I don’t really want to talk to anyone about my anger and my hurt because I don’t want to lash out at friends, I just want to work through this on my own, in my own way.

So, if you feel I am ignoring you, or don't want to be your friend, don't be upset, be thankful that I haven't lashed out at you and said something I may later regret.

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Pudge2you

Jul 19 @ 5:13PM  
Take you time... My heart goes out to you... See you on the flip side hun.
Ewe_Wish

Jul 19 @ 5:14PM  
You know where I am at and you have my number and you know that if you go on a rant I wont take it personal so call me if you want to otherwise take your time work thru this and know that i will be your friend no matter.

I'm just so grateful Thomas is there to comfort you.
just4fun6369

Jul 19 @ 5:16PM  
Know that feeling....just leave me be, I'll get back with you once things have calmed down
jezzarae

Jul 19 @ 5:18PM  

I'm just so grateful Thomas is there to comfort you

lol that was cold Dayna but funny as hell.


and Crissy life isnt always fair and people often say thoughtless things not meaning to hurt or inflame situations. None of which helps you one bit.

All I can say is I care and I am here.
JJN4Fun

Jul 19 @ 5:25PM  
Wow, two blogs in a row from awesome, strong women I've met face to face. Hon, you do what you've got to do to be okay. I'm grateful that my friends here - YOU being on at the top of the list - who have put up with my moods, whether loud and ranting or quiet and closed off, and I guess I would expect your friends to do the same for you. Sometimes people need space - for whatever reason - and though it's sometimes hard not to take it personally, that's what friends are supposed to; give space, hugs, compassion, a swift kick in the ass, and support when needed.

Now, let me leave you alone before you kick my ass!
Argit01

Jul 19 @ 5:35PM  
Honey I wish I knew what was making you so angry, I know that you are tired and hurt due to an accident you had at work. I love you more than life itself so if there is anything I can do to make you feel better tell me and I will make it happen.
I hate the distance that separates me from your loving arms and hope that we will soon be together, trust in the future babe as I aim to make your life so much richer as you have done mine.
cwba

Jul 19 @ 6:13PM  
You know the thing is " can you do something about it, if you can do it if you can't f*ckin forget it and move on" you are the only one that can help you cause if anyone else says things to you you'll want to kick their ass around the block. Take the next you in line.
Fckmhrdtnght

Jul 19 @ 6:21PM  


we all been there......

smashing empty tin cans with a hammer helps.....

smashing old dishes that you never really liked anyways is great too
(put in two thick of paper bags first -- and staple the top ) no clean up work that way.

Lady J
alybai42

Jul 19 @ 6:28PM  
I have those days also. I stay to myself. Don't want to talk to anyone. I feel like I will kill someone if I do. I have a hard time opening up. Then I keep it built up until I explode. Which is not good either.

If you need someone to talk to I am here.
NightOfOld

Jul 19 @ 6:41PM  

Crissy just know that I care, and I can wait till your ready to talk to people again.

Ashinatrix

Jul 19 @ 7:14PM  
this is the part where my eyes start gettin' all shifty.....
and I git the twitches....
TomJ4458

Jul 19 @ 7:23PM  
Sometimes we all have a bit of anger and the emotions tied to it to work through. Eventually you'll probably get to the point where you will want to talk about it - at least talk it out. If not, then hopefully this anger isn't one of great hurt that was caused you.

You know who you can trust and who you can't. Your friends will understand and accept you no matter what. You don't have to talk about it here in an open forum, if you choose not to - it's no one's business but your own.

However you decide to work thru it, you'll hopefully begin to deal with it so that it has less control over you than it does now.
NachoBaby

Jul 19 @ 8:15PM  
If twas I who caused you pain I wish you would say so.. so that i can fix it.
MrED57

Jul 19 @ 8:35PM  
If you want someone to talk to, i am here for you. You dont have to worry about offending me, cause i am not on your friends list.. tho i do think you are a very nice person and like things that i have read of your comments on blogs. .. so if need someone to talk to, let me know... if i dont have an answer or opinion about it, i imagine, jezz would...lol...
belle1010

Jul 19 @ 8:49PM  
Sometimes ya just gots ta work it out in your head before you can work it out verbally.....Do it in your own time, not anyone elses....and know we are hear if you decide you need us.
Premeir

Jul 19 @ 9:21PM  
If you feel you need to deal with the situation on your own the do so. No one knows you better than yourself. I am like that too sometimes and a lot of times it's better to deal with things on your won. Others can just get in the way. They mean well but may not always seem so.
31sunshine

Jul 19 @ 10:07PM  
I see nothing wrong with taking some time for yourself. I do that often, especially when I'm really mad. I prefer to get a handle on my emotions so when I do address the problem I'm not making it worse because I can't explain myself, which is what happens when I'm so angry.

When your ready all your friends will be here waiting to play!!
ShadowsAngel

Jul 19 @ 10:23PM  
How do you keep from being angry when someone hurts you emotionally?

If you find an answer to that one I would like to hear it as well. Please.


How do you keep innocent bystanders from being hurt when you are lashing out?

What works for me is to take myself out into the middle of nowhere and be by myself. That's a mite easier for me than it is for you though since I live in East BumFuk to start with.

hugsssssssss and I am here if ya want to rant at someone.

luv2liclst

Jul 19 @ 10:44PM  
my heart goes out to you.
Lisa46

Jul 19 @ 11:06PM  
kissy I totally understand how you feel so I will leave you alone also. But if you need me I'm here
ladybootscooter

Jul 19 @ 11:20PM  
Sorry to hear it. Hope it's all better soon!
Fckmhrdtnght

Jul 19 @ 11:23PM  
Hardest lesson to learn in life is that we can't control other people, the way they behave. That we can't have everyone like us. That the the smallest slight would hurt immensely

All a person can do is control their reaction to what other people say and do....
whether intentional or unintentional pain inflicted.
life is filled with pain, suffering is optional (can't remember whose quote this is)
If you continue to let another person upset you, they are in control of you.
Take back your control... they are unimportant... what they think is irrelevant

You are important, you are a magnificent person
You know that you are a good person
Believe in yourself
if someone doesn't like you ... fuck 'em , is their loss

Be yourself and don't give a shit about what other people think about you
including family

Be true to yourself,

Being a nice person, doesn't mean you have to put up with other people's bullshit
and if they truly were mean-spirited, bad karma is gonna come back and bit them in their ass. Most of all forgiven them... this doesn't mean condoning what they did... it is simply a way of letting go of the pain

and if you can't forgive them, forgive yourself...

And if you do want to lash out.... do it in a blog

Prncess Kissy kicks the Frog Trolls Ass
beat the crap outta that troll....
head lock, drop kicks, flying knifes, axes,, whatever... go to town...

hope my swearing didn't offend you too much

you are a real nice lady and I hate to hear that you are in pain

borty293

Jul 20 @ 2:42AM  
Oh gawd...lash out at me...please...please...I need a damn good lashing..
casuallylooking

Jul 20 @ 3:20AM  
How do you keep from being angry when someone hurts you emotionally?
We can't help how we feel, only what we do about those feelings. Sometimes anger is there to keep us from feeling more hurt.
Take your time and do what you need to do, for you.
Sometimes I find that being anti-social for a while is better than counting heads later... Especially those of friends.
Good luck, PK.
TheRainKing

Jul 20 @ 9:04AM  
Hey Kissy ...Whatever the problem is you do what you need to do and don't worry about nuthin else or anybody else and just remember you got a very cool, very insightful man in G that you can turn to, and lots of friends if you need em. Hang in there...luv you Darlin...later

Peace and Love
DC The Rain King

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