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posted 7/18/2007 5:48:44 PM |
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I have been on this site for over 2 years now and have reached some interesting conclusions. I was just curious when I joined, wrote the obligatory hundreds of emails to women that are within my geographical area (dallas/fort worth) who were generally disinterested in my efforts to get to know them better. It has not been total loss, I did have lunch with one woman, and coffee with another, they were both attractive and had great personalities, but it never went any further with either one of them. I have been divorced for over 6 years now and celibacy really does suck. As far as this site goes I have given up on the seeking "sex" thing and just stayed to read the many interesting blogs and look at the many pictures that are posted.....however......
I am not just about getting into the pants of any and every woman that comes along. I have kept myself open to having a serious relationship and/or marriage. In that capacity I did join a for pay internet dating site. I am well educated, wordly traveled, a great father, so I think I have alot to offer. When I do meet a woman from the dating site they are full of compliments and questions. "Why is such a handsome man like you still single" I never do have an answer to that question. These many women gladly speak of how they are looking for "Mr Right" but the way I see it they only want one
In that reguard, my sucess rate in finding sex has been a million times better than on AMD, but I am not a piece of meat and I dont want to be your one night stand.
Why is it that when I am loooking for a relationship....... all I find is sex?
When I am on AMD looking for sex....all I find is....nothing

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Jul 18 @ 6:01PM  
hon...........sorry youre all down....but you really need to post a pic.....we ignore profiles w/out pics......most of us do anyway....nothing worse then when a guy says, "I cant post one because of my professional life, but I can send you one."....then we have to decide if we are willing to take the risk of having to tell you we're not interested...because then it will be obvious that we dont like you merely for your looks...

Jul 18 @ 6:15PM  
I, too, am sorry that you're not finding what you want, but as Ash stated, a picture would go a long ways towards helping your cause.

Also, you say you've been here for 2 years and yet, this is the first blog you've posted, you've made no posts on the forums and have little to no information on your profile. Granted, maybe the info on your profile may have changed over the 2 years but if you haven't had any more than you have on there now, I would say your chances of finding anyone on AMD slim to none, leaning more towards the none.

Build up your profile. Sell yourself! After all, that's what the "dating" scene is all about. You're trying to attract "buyers" by presenting the "product", as in you, in the best light possible without using false advertising. And again, we go back to the lack of a picture on your profile.

I hope this helps and that you can start enjoying this wonderful site. Cheers!

Jul 18 @ 6:36PM  
ITA with Ash and BBC2kx. Even if a person doesn't post a picture of their whole face, something is better than nothing. Several people have pictures just showing their eyes or in the case of men, a flattering picture of nice pecs, abs, and/or biceps.
As far as the profile and essays, more elaboration is definitely necessary. Women cannot tell very much about your tastes and desires from what you have completed. Also, participation in the blogs and forums shows others facets of your personality, which can spark interest in some people.

Jul 18 @ 7:40PM  
This is very true a pic is worth a 1000 words.
The more pic's you have posted it really does add another dimension
to your profile.

People seldom will take time to delve into a mystery person.
The only people who can pull off drawing attention to themselves without a pic, is someone who has an extreamly unique writing ablity, a style that's very different form others.
But it's an up-hill climb, because you would have to be posting several times a week.

There are people in here that have unique writing styles. They also have pic's posted as well.

Jul 18 @ 9:04PM  
Absolutely correct. Post enough to let people know what kind of person you are. I've only been on a couple weeks, but everybody here knows I'm a hard-nosed skeptic with a sarcastic sense of humor, and I'm a wannabe musician. But in a chatroom or by email, I can answer a lady's questions however I choose, and they KNOW that. I can lie any way I want when I have a few hours to think about it.

Another piece of advice: don't look for relationships. Don't look for sex. MAKE FRIENDS. The rest takes care of itself.

Unless you ain't got no game.

Jul 19 @ 12:01AM  
Sorry but my BS detector just went off......

Jul 19 @ 10:33PM  
I have a somewhat different perspective...I met a man here way back in August last year, we "clicked" in "that way" and are still in touch today. He didn't have a picture and still doesn't. I don't care so much about a picture upon initial correspondence, but I do require one before I'll consider meeting someone, and when that time came he certainly did provide one (several, in fact). I liked the pics but it turned out, he was even better looking in person! Anyway, I guess my point is that a picture is important but not necessarily right away. And, if giving out email address is an issue (which it is for me), get an account at Photobucket (for G-rated) or Flickr (for R-rated or above) and send a link to your picture right away. Most folks know by now those are not pay sites or scammer sites and it's not a big deal.

Now, let me explain why I don't think a profile pic is necessarily necessary...Sure you can post a picture of your dog, a tree, a bird, your arm, your car, a flag...whatever, but if it's not you and it's not current, what good does a pic do but satisfy someone's need to see SOMETHING? From my pic can you tell what color my hair is? My eye? How much of a BBW I really am? Do I wear glasses, have straight teeth? No, you can't. And I know this because I'm asked all the time what I look like. So... if you want to make the masses happy, post a pic of your front door.

Jul 29 @ 1:25PM  
The men that I have talked to on here, that have no pics up are ending up to be the most looks (after sharing pics) and in personality. So pics posted here really makes no difference to me.


Aug 4 @ 5:32AM  
I gotta agree with RawkStar. Just look to make friends and the rest will fall into whichever category is appropriate. Besides if you're looking for more than sex then friendship is the only foundation that will support that relationship. Take it from somebody whose tried building a lasting relationship based on sex, it doesn't work, ever. Oh the sex is great but the rest of your lives together is miserable. Make friends first, sound advice.

Jan 24 @ 1:44PM  
Damn mrknowuwell!, I am really screwed here arn't I? Thanks neigbor for the insite, I appreciate it.

May 27 @ 1:30PM  

May 27 @ 6:24PM  
How about naked twister ... or ..... naked tag .... in the rain ...

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