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posted 7/7/2007 10:30:07 PM |
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  oralprincess420

I'm no newbie in the wild and kinky world of sex and sex play.

I have ONLY had one gentleman (from here!) who would phone Dom me and I loved it sooooo much! He was always 100% about getting me there in the biggest way possible. He was respectful, kind and really cool.

But, it seems like when I tell potential new lovers that I am very interested in real time Dom/sub play they want to tie me up (isn't that BDSM?) and push my face into the floor or wherever.

Am I WAY off the beaten track here? Ultimately, we make the rules for our own bodies and bedrooms, but can anyone help me through this one. Am I using the wrong terminology?

Peace and MouthLove,
op420

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oralprincess420

Jul 7 @ 10:31PM  
OK, that was weird... I posted this blog and an old one popped up on the top...

sorry folks!

peace and mouthlove,
op420
ladybootscooter

Jul 7 @ 10:34PM  
Many Doms/Dommes are into the bondage and discipline side of things. Keep looking you'll find the right one for you.
Dominus

Jul 7 @ 11:13PM  
These sort of relationships have many potential elements. Some involve pain, bondage, command, humiliation, or anonymity just to name a few.

There really isn't a "set" guideline as to what parameters the definitions hold. You have to be able to voice what you want and you have to be reasonable in your expectations to get it.

My best advice is to read...a lot...and that way you'll start to feel what is a turn on and what is not.
GryGoast

Jul 7 @ 11:40PM  
princess dear ... I am a Domanate and a sexual sadist... and a reather gifted one if reports serve. What you discribe is NOT BDSM ... it is abuse and should be delt with as such.
BDSM is so lil about kinky sex. It is about the heart ... and touching another human being ....

When one seeks Mastery ... the first thing to be mastered is ... ones self.

One heart ... Beating for two.


Godspeed

Master Gry
Detach

Jul 8 @ 12:01AM  
Actually dom/sub play is quite open ended. There is room on both sides for compromise and usually involves use of safety words. You should only tolerate what you feel is acceptable and the dom should only dish out what has been discussed as acceptable. If you don't want your face smashed into the floor, make mention of that.
steelruler

Jul 20 @ 12:34PM  
most successful Dom/sub relationships i have seen depend on a negotiated set of "rules" that pretty well set the general outline for the relationship. whether Dom's like it or not the sub really has the majority of the power and the Dom's authority only comes from what the sub is willing to turn over. the relationships can be very open or very tightly restricted - just depends on the people involved.

good luck!

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