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posted 9/18/2006 12:10:19 PM |
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I am surprised by the amount of hate mail I get on here. I am really more than miffed by it in reality. I state that I am married and exactly what I am looking for (and what I am not looking for - more importantly). Sure, I know the stigma for that listing. Sure, I understand the choices I have made. Sure, I grasp that I don't fit the "dating" mold on most sites but...

This isn't a dating site. This is a "match" site.

As a result, I have freedom to seek who is my match just like others do. No judgments, no reprisals, and no anger. I don't think talk single people out of getting married because my marriage wasn't like the imaginary brochure it was suppose to be, nor to I think that all married people should fool around on the side. Whatever floats your boat is really ok by me.

To those who feel the need to scorn me, my standard response should be the following:

Yes, I know I am married. I took the time to state this in my profile. No matter my looks, ideas or mannerisms, it is apparent that I am not a match for you. Please don't tell me what YOU already know. I likely didn't email you first because usually I have a pretty good vibe on who I should contact on here (hence a potential match - either by their profile or blog or forum post), so I would waste either of our time stating your opinions of me. Yes, I am sorry you were hurt by a passed relationship but no, it isn't people LIKE ME who are at fault. It was surely the fault of one of you(if not both) in the relationship, not someone that wasn't there at the time.

The haters need to realize that this isn't or eharmony or whatever. It is far more adult than that but not as adult as other sites. I like the community here. I like the options. I have had the pleasure of e-meeting a few really solid matches in the past years. Some I have met personally. There have been winners and losers and tweeners. The key is we all knew the rules of the game and what we were getting into, no surprises and no regrets.

The haters need to grasp where they are and then have the discernment to refrain from judging what really doesn't pertain to them. You are seeking people like me and I am not seeking people like you.

Have a great's another Manic Monday.

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Sep 18 @ 6:48PM  
Some "adults" are so childish. lol...If the fact you are married bothers them...they should just keep on cruising and not waste your time with such idiocy. Like you's an adult site...we all know the rules.

Oh yeah.....long time no see. lol Take care

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