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posted 7/6/2007 12:20:03 AM |
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Ok, this is my last place to turn..I have been spending time with a young lady who up to lately has just beeen a friend of mine. Although we have seen each other practically everyday I still do not know IF she sees me as more than a friend...I take her places, I pay for things when I take her out, what signals do women send when you want more than just friends? How do I tell her how I really feel without losing what we have now in the process? I would really appreciate any help here..

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Dominus

Jul 6 @ 12:51AM  
Be up front. Ask her. Be the one to initiate it and ask "Have you ever wondered what it would be like if we were dating romantically?" She'll probably clue you in very quickly. Unless she turns around and says "Have you?"

Then you shouldn't say "Yes" No" or even try and be gentlemanly and say "I wouldn't want to ruin what we have." Trust me. Whatever you answer it will be wrong because she's likely to "read into" it before a discussion gets going.

So plan an elaborate and amusing story. How you met on a windswept beach and your passions were carried away like the ocean tide...how your marriage was presided over by two popes and a maharajah...how on lazy summer afternoons you would take turns dangling your children over the veranda of your Victorian estate.

If you set it up right, when you ask the re-reversal of the question: "So how do you envision our romantic involvement?" She would be hard pressed to "top" your answer so she'll pretty much have to be honest.
Ewe_Wish

Jul 6 @ 12:56AM  
Dom, you are a sick, sick man but i think it would work LMAO
Ashinatrix

Jul 6 @ 12:58AM  
Uhhhhh......k Dom.........all I know is that you need to find out some how....make sure she's not just a mooch
reichbane

Jul 6 @ 1:02AM  
Shes not a mooch, she is very proper and ladylike, maybe this will help you help me...(I HOPE)
slohand_47

Jul 6 @ 1:46AM  
There are no absolutes that work for everyone........ but in my experience........ learn to read Body Language. If a woman is interested, she will invade your space. Making "innocent" body contact with her hands.... leg....... prolonged eye contact..... focusing on your every word......

IF she is shy..... try subtly invading her space. Touch her hand or arm if an opportunity presents itself. IF you go out to dinner, get a booth and sit next to her instead of across. IF she looks & acts uncomfortable with you so close...... she's not interested, dude. AND....... be gracious & not crabby if "no" is the message you get. She might change her mind someday if you act like a gentleman.
WestTexasVixen

Jul 6 @ 7:51AM  
I have a friend like this, as well. Only in my case the friend is male. I just came out and dieectly asked, one day. Granted, he didn't feel the same way. But, you never know unless you try. Good Luck.
Elizabeth
redmex

Jul 6 @ 8:07AM  
Yes, I too HAD male friends like that, now that is why nobody is around me now. lol...you need to ask her how she feels about you. Just explain you need to know where you stand with her. Good Luck sweetie
jjhxjpb

Jul 6 @ 9:02AM  
I agree with Dom, just ask, and tell her how you feel, she will respect the honesty. I am sure this isnt what you want to hear, but if she isnt interested, then its better you find out early....

Good Luck!

CrazyCraveman

Jul 6 @ 1:27PM  
Be up front. Ask her. Be the one to initiate it and ask "Have you ever wondered what it would be like if we were dating romantically?" She'll probably clue you in very quickly. Unless she turns around and says "Have you?"

Trust me. Whatever you answer it will be wrong because she's likely to "read into" it before a discussion gets going.

Damn, talk about hitting the nail on the head!!
reichbane

Jul 6 @ 2:15PM  
Thanks for your help everyone, now it just comes down to me having the balls to tell her. Im thinking about taking her fishing, we catch a mess of them and I cook them up for her for dinner...
South_Of_Main

Jul 28 @ 5:11PM  
Some quiet time alone could be a good time/place to find out. If she is not into fishing take her hiking on one of the Giant City hiking trails and pack a simple picnic to enjoy along the way. God I miss that place.. some of the best trails in your area.

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