Are you bored?  Are you going to bed earlier and earlier for no reason? Do you yearn for the next task? Perhaps your routine should be shaken up! 
But this begs the question, How should I shake things up? Simple, redefine why you do something and why you don't do something. My philosophy used to be, what will my friends think? or What if I get caught? along with all the thoughts and implications of being caught.
Legitimate reasons to not do something: could hurt others or even yourself, or that it goes against your own individual moral compass. Moral compasses should be built upon your solid beliefs because you have investigated (although may not have experienced) arguments for and against your beliefs. The beliefs still held after investigation help mold your moral compass.
This last year I started weighing what I should and should not do by determining if the act was idiotic  , routine , or interesting  . An idiotic act severely threatens the safety of those around me and/or the safety of myself. Those kind of acts are avoided at all costs. Routine acts are usually those things that are on the "need to be done" basis, so before I get to interesting acts I make sure routine acts are taken care of.
Interesting acts are those events that kind of fall into a gray area of what or what not to do. I attempt to weigh the positives and negatives, but once the negatives equal the positives I stop weighing. Then I try to imaging what could be learned from performing the act, whether or not the result is negative, positive, or a wash. At the age of 20 I view lessons to be VERY important and beneficial. If the lesson outweighs the consequences of things turning our in a negative way, then I go on with the act.
With the confidence that everything will turn out alright despite the result, I find that my "risky" acts end up resulting positively than blowing up in my face.
My example of this is that I moved from Dayton, OH to Centreville, VA at the beginning of this summer. Most of my friends weren't even down with their finals yet, but I went ahead and left once I had secured housing here. I don't know many people here, but that's making me search avenues for doing so, plus making me feel more connected w/my co-workers. I have to drive more than an hour to work every morning and every night, but I am to listen to Books on Audio. I hope to start on John Grisham's Kind of Torts soon.
My taking chances has emboldened me while allowing me to be true to myself and not miss out on what life has to offer. And I still have many things to experience. One interesting event that hasn't made it through my test is HAVING SEX. That's right, I'm 20 and still a virgin. I have not yet met a girl that has made me think that having the experience now is worth it, and I don't plan on doing it anytime soon. But that doesn't mean I'm closed to having my mind changed.
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