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posted 6/14/2007 10:11:05 AM |
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  grabb0r

Blog writing shouldn't be an eggshell walk. So long as you follow the site's guidelines, you should post what you want and not feel pressure to sugar coat it.

Some of us here think that it's all well and good to harshly criticize others' blogs. News flash -- it is. As much as an author sees fit to write whatever they want and can be as considerate (or inconsiderate) of others' opinions as they feel necessary to get their point across, readers are just as free to comment in any manner they feel appropriate. If whining about a written affront is how you deal with it then fine. I personally respond once to clear up any misconceptions then drop it as everyone is allowed their opinion in my book (regardless of how vitriolic).

I see precious few blogs and comments that are downright disagreeable. Logic dictates that this is indicative of a certain percent of people more or less holding their tongues. I don't expect everyone to agree with my opinions just as I don't expect to agree with everyone else's, but for every person who trashes an opinion I can ask why a different view is more valid. It all comes down to agreeing to disagree. Or a flame war.

What happens when you try to please everyone rather than write what you actually want to is you're lying. It seems that too often in our increasingly offendable society we focus on trying to quell the critics rather than trying to connect with our intended audience by expressing ourselves. I say damn the critics, I want to read something which evokes emotion again. Even if I'm furious after reading something it's better than the emotional ennui that I feel after trudging through yet another politically correct waste of time.

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Ewe_Wish

Jun 14 @ 10:21AM  
There is a difference between having different opinions and being judgemental and critizing others beliefs. I know the difference and still will be judgemental when i take what someone says as a personal attack. There is also the difference in generalizations and saying something as in fact and point because its your belief. i know the difference but its apparent in your writing that you dont. see how fucking judgemental i can be?
totallytaboo

Jun 14 @ 10:27AM  
I don't think people hold back here. I don't, but I'm not the type of person to be rude, mostly because I wasn't raised that way. I have a positive outlook (for the most part) and I never felt it necessary to just down right harass someone or "flame" them because of what they wrote in a blog. So, we hold our tongues because we don't go out our way to say rude and insulting things? What if we really don't have anything negative to say? But really, why do you care what other people do or don't do, even enough to write a blog about it?
grabb0r

Jun 14 @ 11:11AM  
There is a difference between having different opinions and being judgemental and critizing others beliefs. I know the difference and still will be judgemental when i take what someone says as a personal attack. There is also the difference in generalizations and saying something as in fact and point because its your belief. i know the difference but its apparent in your writing that you dont. see how fucking judgemental i can be?

I will agree with you that there is a difference between having your own opinions and criticizing others'. It's ironic how you claim that it's apparent that I don't know the difference by my writing when in fact my writing doesn't make valid any such assumption. What I'm trying to get across is that people should write with passion, and if they feel the need to criticize someone they should. Even if there's a misunderstanding, as there seems to have been on your part, it can at least come to the forefront and be addressed.

I don't think people hold back here. I don't, but I'm not the type of person to be rude, mostly because I wasn't raised that way. I have a positive outlook (for the most part) and I never felt it necessary to just down right harass someone or "flame" them because of what they wrote in a blog. So, we hold our tongues because we don't go out our way to say rude and insulting things? What if we really don't have anything negative to say? But really, why do you care what other people do or don't do, even enough to write a blog about it?

I've a positive outlook myself and wasn't raised to be rude either, so I'm surprised that you've misunderstood me. I'm not saying people should go out of their way to be rude, but I'm not saying people should avoid being rude if they feel it the best way to get their message across. HOW someone writes is just as important as WHAT they write. If you don't have anything rude to say, don't say anything rude -- simple as that. Why I care about what people do or don't do is because I read other peoples' blogs. Not only is it a crime of the highest order for people to feel pressured into or out of expressing themselves, but it makes for poor entertainment in my humble opinion.

As such, despite negative comments, I appreciate the chance to clarify rather than regret posting something which ruffles a few feathers.
Ewe_Wish

Jun 14 @ 11:24AM  
Well since your so quick to quote your own comments let me do the same but from your previous blog:

you're not the first and won't be the last, but hopefully you'll eventually learn that being hurt online is something you outgrow. I've had my experience with "internet love" and was heartbroken when it fell through. In time you'll realize that there AREN'T people on the other side of your conversations.


So what your saying is that you cant get to know anyone online. HMMM i dont know about your internet love life, and personally dont really give a rats ass but let me tell you something for me it wasnt just online emailing back and forth, it was also messenger which can be taken probably with the same grain of salt, but it also included phone call after phone call. Maybe as you age you will realize there is more to see than just what is in front of your face.

I am not going to get into a pissing contest with you because for one your not equipped to win and second of all i dont play with little boys. Your attitude shows all it needs to, for me at least. You are unfeeling and uncaring about everyone and you think your word is gold. BTW i wonder if the internet love doesnt work how argit and PK got together. HMMMMMMM damnn your so right you cant get to know anyone on the internet.
grabb0r

Jun 14 @ 11:35AM  
Well since your so quick to quote your own comments let me do the same but from your previous blog:

What I wrote in my previous blog has little to do with this one, and I find it immature that you're trying to attack me this way. Not only are you drifting the topic of this blog entry and failing to address the points but you're making assumptions as to what my point was in a previous blog. I never stated that internet love can't work, I'm far from unfeeling and uncaring, and I've no intention of getting into a "pissing match" with anyone online. As you have in emails with me you bring age into the discussion as some kind of golden cross which justifies your position over mine, and I feel that trying to discuss this with you as an adult (as I'd offered in my email) may very well not be possible from your end.

If you change your mind, however, feel free to contact me. As for replying to your comments, I simply no longer see a point to it as you refuse to consider that this may all be a misunderstanding on your part in the first place.
Ewe_Wish

Jun 14 @ 11:44AM  
You are probably right i am not reacting as a mature adult and i apologize for that. Im hurt, im heartbroken and im bitter and when someone suggests. even if that wasnt there intention, that my feelings are not real or stupid i strike back in any way, shape, or form. i was going to write this in an email but since i was an ass in public blog i will apologize in public blog. Again I have probably taken your statements way to personal. Maybe someday i can look at the situation and to see the reality of it but right now i don't think i can.
Pudge2you

Jun 14 @ 12:14PM  
He's a contradictory opinion.... This is a fucking stupid blog on a fucking stupid subject.

You are no more qualified to analyze the nature of these relationships than my 8 year old son.

Your advice is worthless. As is your opinion. As is mine.
grabb0r

Jun 14 @ 12:18PM  
{quote]He's a contradictory opinion.... This is a fucking stupid blog on a fucking stupid subject.

You are no more qualified to analyze the nature of these relationships than my 8 year old son.

Your advice is worthless. As is your opinion. As is mine.[/quote]
Oh Pudge, every one of your comments on my blog entries is as valuable as the next.
Pudge2you

Jun 14 @ 12:32PM  
Nice to see you practice what you preach.

Just checkin.
lintroller

Jun 14 @ 1:20PM  
I only partially share this opinion. It is certainly nice occasionally to read something that clearly took courage to write. Evoking emotion simply for the sake of eliciting a desired response, however, is not worthwhile reading in my opinion. It's called hokum.

If ennui lies at one undesirable extreme on the spectrum of emotion, then fury--usually associated with loss of perspective or personalizing--certainly occupies the other. If I do in some cases capitulate to the urge to become angry, then what I just read is invariably over-opinionated and refuses to entertain dialogue. Agreed--anyone is, strictly speaking, free to be relentlessly harsh or obnoxious or combative; the veil of anonymity ensures that the worst possible retaliation is to be alienated from the community she just attacked. But I find that approach to be not just impractical, but myopic. Cultivating a sense of community is what gives places like this greater meaning; it's worth more when it's not just a bunch of individuals blurting out their thoughts, much like political bumper stickers on a car which similarly don't allow for real dialogue.

In a nutshell, I strongly believe that you can openly question, disagree, and criticize while still exercising diplomacy. I do it quite often myself. I know that this site is meant to be an escape, in part, which is probably why you referenced its entertainment value in one of your comments below; however, until other humans are removed from the equation, we still have to deal at least partially in reality, albeit less inhibited.
Ewe_Wish

Jun 14 @ 1:21PM  
He practices what he preaches hes just really lousy on making the quotes option work sorry i had to say it. LOL
wtxman

Jun 14 @ 4:08PM  
Ok folks,now tell us how you really feel,come on don't hold back.
cabl_guy

Jun 14 @ 10:17PM  
I'd had to go with........."I truly don't care."

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