One of the most frustrating things about being a reluctant virgin at age 27 is the inability to explain what its like. "The 40 year old virgin" touched on some of the elements of this life... but really didnt represent what I have experienced (like the main charecter doesnt masturbate or enjoy porn). But it was truthful that people's first reaction is disbelief and most male friends second reaction is "I bet i can get you a chick for you" . Which is kinda funny... cause in the movie the main charecter has the same reaction i do. The sort of "Gee Willikers if you think you can try than i wont stop you... but you will fail" Most people bring it as far as offering help and then never atually help. Some will actually try... but run smack dab into the center of their own apathy and give up. This I find funny. I really dont begrudge them for trying or giving up because I have been trying and giving up my whole life.
Another element of my life as a 27 year old virgin is the models of reaction to other peoples sexual success. For example... I have had several friends who have been in my position. Some of them so strongly hate people who have really great sexual relationships that they grow to ostracize anyone who isnt a high age reluctant virgin. I however embrace the more fortunate people who have great sex. I have always lived under the idea of "if im not having sex im glad at least someone is"... Which spouted the wonderful idea of the "Dedicate one to me" program. Which basically consists of a couple before having sex "dedicating it to me" therby enjoying their experience while remembering that they are lucky to have someone.
Another complication in the life of the 27 year old virgin are those who try to get you to ignore it. "Sex is no big deal" they say... or "I barely remember losing my virginity"... this is one of the few times that I have to make a conscious effort not to stab them in the eye. I know they are trying to help. But when media, general discourse, and most importantly my body starts telling me its no big deal... then maybe ill believe it. But until then i deal with sex as a major plotline of almost every Tv show, Movie, and song in the media... hours long discussions with friends that i can take no part in because i have not had the experiences nessecary to throw in my two cents... and hormonal urges that often result in penial chafing i try to satisfy them so much. It is a big deal...
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