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posted 5/4/2007 2:18:45 PM |
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  decaturnooner

Sometimes you have to step back and reflect on opportunities, either taken or passed on...

One month ago today I met someone from this site. It was a meeting that was planned but yet still not without its glitches. First, we have attempted to hook up on a few occasions. Either she couldn't make it suddenly or I couldn't make it suddenly. Both of us were frustrated because often the anticipation is really the best part of the initial meeting because you really never quite know how a first meeting will go.

I tell her my plans and expect her at 7 pm at the latest. She calls after 7 to say she is on her way. On her way? Do you mean I wasn't important enough to be here promptly on time? My ego is dashed but I swallow my pride and try to tell myself that she is just delayed by kids or trains or planes or automobiles.

Fast forward to around 8:30, she no "her" and finally she calls again. Her car is stalled in a small town at a small gas station. She is just about 20 miles away and asks if I can go out and meet her to drive her back to where I am located. I sigh! What to do what to do?

On one hand, we haven't met several times because of glitches like this.

On the other hand, maybe it is someone trying to tell me that I should just let it go.

I decide to go and get her.

The moment of truth comes when I pull into the lot and see her standing beside her car. We have exchanged pictures in the past and talked but never met. Meeting is so different than any of those forementioned things. The first "look" clearly defines how the rest of the time will be spend. Initial feelings should flood each other at this point: Anticipation, excitement, doom, disappointment just to name a few. When I saw her, I felt absolutely none of the above. None of the above was her fault, it just was what it was.

Suddenly for the first time in a long time, I was naked while wearing my clothes. What do I say? What do I do? I don't dislike her but I am not really fully engaged in her either. I don't wish her harm but I wouldn't mind if she hadn't called at all.

Now, what do you do?

I chose the route more easily travelled, I gave it a chance. I am glad I did. We had a good time. She had a certain confidence to her that I didn't anticipate and she was very physical at the right times. I have no idea how I was exactly, since it is hard to score yourself but an obviously bias point of view. I hope I was interesting and fun.

We drove back the next day small talking and not planning for any future. I think we both knew that we weren't going to meet on purpose again. She felt a little guility about my sacrifices that 18 hour stretch and I felt very little about a real connection between us.

It has been akward for me ever since because I didn't know quite what do say, until now.

Anyone experienced the above? I would be glad to have you advise me on this matters, it was a totally different experience for me.

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ynot7769

May 4 @ 2:39PM  
ahh that first time face to face after long converstations ect..only to find out the chemistry just isn't what we thought.............YES been there doen that ...sometimes more uncomfortable then other times.....no real way to avoid it thou is there? only so much is real HERE then its either face to face n lip to lip OR never at all.....but all life is risk...soo....say wtf and from time to time just do it........
zena343

May 4 @ 2:40PM  
Sorry to hear nooner it wasn't what you expected!!

Zena
funnygirl730

May 4 @ 3:09PM  
i don't think anyone ever turns out to be exactly as we thought they would be.we build an image up in our minds and sometimes it'd hard for reality to match up.i have ment a couple men that i hooked up with online.one was nothing like he presented himself but the other has become a friend even though we didn't hook up sexually.don't just pretend you never ment her try being friends.you can never have enough new friends.
decaturnooner

May 4 @ 3:16PM  
Hold on!

I never said it was a experience I wish I never had. Let's read it for what it is only, a situation in which for reasons that can't be pinpointed, a true connection wasn't realized.

Sex was good

Conversation was good.

Just no "connection" that was electric.
ynot7769

May 4 @ 3:47PM  
hey Nooner I understood ...mine were never so bad..just not the electricity i/we/they had expected......... what can ya do?
JJN4Fun

May 4 @ 3:54PM  
Yeah, I know how that is...when you've done the internet dating thing for a while, you're bound to experience a whole range of things - from "no shows", to "late shows", to "freak shows"...and more. And oh, yah, I've experienced all of the above! I feel fortunate that I've met someone with whom I get along very well (which means he puts up with me :) - in fact, this is probably the most naturally comfortable relationship I've ever had. So...I guess this is to say that I hope neither of you is put off by this experience - and that you can resume a friendship.

Oh, and welcome back! NOW the gang's all here!!!
canuhelpme258

May 4 @ 4:06PM  
Well there goes the neighborhood! I'm sorta glad your back maybe.





canuhelpme258

May 5 @ 2:48PM  
Christ, stop sending me wannafuck e-mails nooner!

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