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A response to an earlier blog...with respect to the original blogger

posted 4/18/2007 8:39:33 PM |
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  sundance64

"I'm curious...is any of this based on your experience and/or education as a pyschologist? Or are you basing it on your own personal opinions. You seem to be making some very broad statements, such as

Modern society is so fast paced we no longer know who or what we are any more. We are still primitives living in a society we cant deal with
and I
hardly think love is over rated. what has happened is that we have become scared to admit this

"Now granted, I've taken these out of context, but they right there for everyone to read. My question is...how can you make statements like this, engulfing the entire adult population, without any type of research or statistical evidence to back it up? You have reminded us over and over...to the point of nauseum...that you are a psychologist with a psychology degree and that you have taken psychology courses. Ok...fine. We get that. Are we supposed to see that you have this degree and assume that everything you say is fact?
"For example...you stated :
Actually the success of advertising shows just how easily power can be snookered. Most people do not have higher cognitive skills unfortunately. They can be convinced of anything due to insecurity.

"This statement make no sense. People do not have 'higher cognitive skills'? Higher than what? Yours? Are you saying that you are not 'snookered' by advertising? And saying people can be 'convinced of anything due to insecurity' is just silly. First of all..not everyone in the population is insecure...and there are different degrees of insecurity....many of which can be overcome if one recognizes and chooses to overcome these insecurities. As a pyschologist, I wonder if you have come in contact with such people and assisted them with such things.
"Secondly, there are some things I know from my own personal experience that I will never be convinced of...one of those being that 'lust' is immoral.

And speaking of the morality issue, you also stated this:
In addition, this has nothing to do with morality but human decency. Kindness and caring for each other.
In my opinion, morality and human decency go hand in hand.
"No...they are not the same as different people have different ideas of morality. However, by most human standards a moral person is also a decent person. Biblical references aside, morality is mostly to do with treating others with respect and dignity. As a sexual reference, being moral is more to do with how one perceives themself as a sexual person than how others perceive them.

"Finally, you stated:
In elementary psychology classes they teach that humans need food shelter safety and love as basics to survive . I hardly think love is over rated. what has happened is that we have become scared to admit this

"I agree with the first part of this statement...first year psychology classes do teach basic human needs. What I don't agree with is the *again* broad statement that "we" are too scared to admit that love is not overrated. Are you speaking from a professional stand or a personal one? I, personally, don't believe that love, in and of itself, is an emotion that is feared so much as fear of being with the wrong person. Most people I know strive for a loving committed relationship...in whatever form they choose that to be whether it's with just one person or whether it's a consentual polygomous relationship. The fear comes more from being with someone they are not necessarily in love with but not wanting to be alone and feeling they have to 'settle' rather than start over trying to find the 'right' one.

"Sorry for the long comment...I guess I should've written my own blog about this. But then again...what do I know right? "


The preceding was a response I wrote to a blog earlier today...and I was invited to write my own blog in lieu of having my comment posted since I apparently said too much for the original blogger to answer. Also, as per her wishes, I won't post her response to my comment which was sent as a private email. That's ok...she never did answer any of my questions, so her response was irrelevant.
I did however kindly ask her what areas she researched in order to form her opinions. Again, since it was a private email...I won't post it here. Suffice to say...the question wasn't answered as it pertained to the original blog.
I was accused of being naive...or quite possibly she thought I was sight impaired...and when I asked for clarification of this she admitted that she was under time contraints and was unable to answer any of my questions.

I enjoy a good discussion and/or debate as much as the next person. I admit I've poked a little fun but this time I truly wished only to learn more about this person and her vast experience. Without putting anything that was said by the original blogger in private here on my blog...let me just say that in my opinion all I got was baffled.

Thank you all for your time.

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HollyHummy

Apr 18 @ 9:10PM  
hummmmm I just got here a few minutes ago...
I'm wondering who she is talking about????
aspertame

Apr 18 @ 9:13PM  
Psychologist? Sounds more like a barn painter......... Employs a very "broad brush"
feistyelena

Apr 18 @ 9:16PM  
sometimes I forget that people dont know some of the things I take for granted as the most basic information . When I talk about cognitive thinking skills. the first of course is simple memory. A nyone can remember things..... But as we grow older we must learn to do more and that leads to different type of thinking skills such as comparing and constrasting, deducing , evaluating, judging,etc this is what I mean my higher cognitive skillls. To think all people can do this is not true. they should but they cannot. I am not here to teach a basic education class my dear if you want that you will have to pay me.... now you know why I did not want to me bothered with you and why I did not answer you. I was because you did not have the basic knowledge to discuss this with me.... you are on a level to discuss this information with me without me giving your too much background info. That is why people with little education are always angry and putting down the experts. I gave you my resume to explain the hundreds of hours I studied to learn this I dont try to fix a car. Stay out of the Psychology and education business ( my territory ) sorry but it is true...
Loveyoulongtime2

Apr 18 @ 9:22PM  
The workings of the mind is far too complex for psychology to be an exact science like mathematics or chemistry where there is only one right answer and is not subjective. Every individual is different and there are differing opinions among psychologists.
Yes, she has some very broad statements. Perhaps it was late at night and her opinions and words are not very clearly stated.

Good blog sundance.
I'm not a psychologist and don't claim to be one here or anywhere.

Good one aspertame.
When I painted full time for contractors, we called the new sloppy painters barn painters. They got as much paint on themselves as on the wall.
feistyelena

Apr 18 @ 9:22PM  
In addition one of the most dishonest things is to take someones quotes out of context which is exactly what you did ,so it does not make sense but in the context of the essay and discussion it made very good sense and almost everyone agreed with me.
Ewe_Wish

Apr 18 @ 9:26PM  
I
am not here to teach a basic education class my dear if you want that you will have to pay me..
Most of us are only willing to pay for classes that are taught by experts that being said that isnt you. Just because you have a degree doesnt mean you know anything tho you do quite well in talking in circles to convince us lesser intelligent to believe you know what your saying. Hmmm my bullshit detector goes off each time i read your words.

I said in an earlier blog and i will repeat it now (since you have taught me the fine point of repeating things over and over with the idea if it is said enough times it must be true.) psychologist are usually sicker than the people they are trying to help--and i thank you for proving your point.

Personally i think your a troll. I have thought so since the first time i read one of your blogs and my opinion hasnt changed one bit. SO be nasty be mean your opinion of me doesnt really matter to me and i will never know because i will never read another one of your blogs (dribble in actuality) again. BTW i think you picked the wrong person to have a pissing contest with, sunny is not only more intelligent than you but has more class in her little finger than you have in the thoroughly educated brain.

Good luck with your life your going to need it!!!
Dominus

Apr 18 @ 9:33PM  
"This statement make no sense. People do not have 'higher cognitive skills'?

That might have been in response to my comment on the original blog, which was:

F.E.: I think tv and movies and porn have really made people totally unrealistic.

Dom: Unless your mind is as impressionable as a child's, I don't see how any media can "make" you anything. Even high school students are taught critical thought.

If that is genuinely her feeling, that "Most people do not have higher cognitive skills unfortunately", then it's sadly indicative of someone who has a very poor opinion of people in general.

The workings of the mind is far too complex for psychology to be an exact science like mathematics or chemistry where there is only one right answer and is not subjective.

And that's where I have to disagree with you. There are many branches of psychology. The "cognitive" model that F.E. is suggesting is a model that was supported by Piaget and his followers, and it should be noted that it's sadly out of date. Little has been done to advance cognitive models that isn't subjective. On the other hand, Behavior and Brain-Behavior models as well as Inferential psychology are extremely empirical sciences with some very hard numbers.

But that may be what all of the fuss is about. If the person who's making claims that we are following certain patterns of psychology is using scientific models which have since become largely obsolete, then it only stands to reason their responses may be clouded, disillusioned, frustrated, consternated, and downright bleak.

It's just natural to feel that way when you've bet on the wrong horse.
Roxanna

Apr 18 @ 9:37PM  
I admire those who take the time to educate themselves with tons of hours and piles of books. It takes true dedication to do so. Unfortunately, being book smart does not make someone the only person who can actually be aware and knowledgable of any particular subject.

Many of us learn hands on and this includes the inner workings of individuals.
I have worked with my community of people for 9 years. I work with individuals who are MR/DD (for those of you who do not know). I started with NO degree and based all of my advancements on working my way towards the top. Hell, 5 years ago i took my previous job from someone with a Masters Degree. I know my people better than any of their damn psychologists...

People seriously need to get off their high horses. Horses trip and break legs and then they are back down in the pit with the rest of us.
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 9:38PM  
Now this is what I'm talkin about!!

First of all..my dear...once again you are using broad based statements with nothing to back them up.

But as we grow older we must learn to do more and that leads to different type of thinking skills such as comparing and constrasting, deducing , evaluating, judging,etc this is what I mean my higher cognitive skillls. To think all people can do this is not true. they should but they cannot.

Are you implying that all people cannot do this? Or just a select few? I for one and quite capable of decucing, evaluating and judging...ect...without the benefit of paying for your 'education'. Most of the people I associate with are at least as capable as I...in most cases more so.

I was because you did not have the basic knowledge to discuss this with me.... you are on a level to discuss this information with me without me giving your too much background info.

This is so unbelievably contradictory...I'm not even sure if it was meant as an insult or just an opinion. lol Allow me to respond by saying this: If you're going to attempt to impress me with your vast knowledge in this type of forum...this being a 'writing' forum...please learn how to use proper diction and dictation.
You're correct in saying I didn't give you too much of my background information. You didn't ask for any. You assume that I'm uneducated...which by the way I'm not...and then you take it one step futher and accuse me of angry and putting you down. Angry? oh no...more like immensely amused. As for putting you down...there is no need for me to do that.

As far as staying out of "your" field...let me give you just a little 'background' information about myself. I have an associates degree in Applied Science. I know...just something that looks good on a resume. I also have a degree in English Literature and am currently studying for my Bacholers degree in ...oh yes...Education. I am a life long student of life...I have read books, attended seminars and lectures as a critique student as well as having traveled all over the world and met and spoken with people of cultures from many walks of life.
I share my knowledge freely with others and in return am willing to learn from any source I can get my hands on. However...one thing I do not do is vaunt my knowledge...or even my lack of knowledge...and I never ever behave in a condescending manner to another person who is earnestly seeking knowledge.
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 9:41PM  
and btw...I also know how to fix a car. If you need any help with that just let me know.
bentan

Apr 18 @ 9:46PM  
I think it's fair to say that most of the time offense is not caused by people making disagreeable opinions but rather by people making opinions in a disagreeable fashion. But hey ... what do I know? ... I have the cognitive abilities of a chimp ... hoo hoo hoo ... me like banana.
feistyelena

Apr 18 @ 9:47PM  
I love being hated , I was the first kid to be against the Vietnan War in 1966, against global warming 15 years ago and for having no more that 1 child per family 30 years ago... and i have yet to be proven wrong. and guess what! the FBI was after me at Kent St U in may 4 1970 so go fuck yourselves I produced a kid whose a genius you go do all that .....he he he
redhotzz

Apr 18 @ 9:50PM  
Ahhhh....but are you Board Certified in Automotive Repair or just a shade tree mechanic?
When did we have to have degrees and letters behind our names to be blogging on a supposed adult dating site?? Is that a new 'core' rule?? Just wondering.....
bentan

Apr 18 @ 9:58PM  
Don't you just love people with a persecution complex? Every man and his dog is out to matyr me. Poor me ... boo hoo. Enough with the pity party already ... it gets fucking old.
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 9:59PM  
love being hated , I was the first kid to be against the Vietnan War in 1966, against global warming 15 years ago and for having no more that 1 child per family 30 years ago... and i have yet to be proven wrong. and guess what! the FBI was after me at Kent St U in may 4 1970 so go fuck yourselves I produced a kid whose a genius you go do all that .....he he he

And this has to do with the discussion at hand how?

Thank you Dominus for sharing the information regarding the "cognitive model".
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 10:09PM  
Ahhhh....but are you Board Certified in Automotive Repair or just a shade tree mechanic?
Just a shade tree mechanic...but I learned how to change the oil, do a tune-up...fix a flat tire, I can even change out an alternator. All this from my dad...a mechanical engineer and my brother...a board certified automotive repairman.

When did we have to have degrees and letters behind our names to be blogging on a supposed adult dating site?? Is that a new 'core' rule?? Just wondering.....
eh...the question was asked...or rather the statement was made...I simply responded. Personally, I could give a rat's rosey red ass who has what degree as long as the talk is good and the popcorn is still free!
Dominus

Apr 18 @ 10:14PM  
I was the first kid to be against the Vietnan War in 1966

The Vietnam War raged from 1959 to 1975. If you started a protest in 1966 you were hardly the "first". In fact, since large troop deployments happened as early as 1954 you would have been about six years old when the conflict had it's roots. I remember being six and hearing about Vietnam, and I can tell you the last thing that's on a kid's mind at that age is picking up a picket and protesting. Either you don't have your facts straight, you're a liar, or you had parents that pushed you into things (which kind of removes you out of the equation as far as credit is concerned.)

...against global warming 15 years ago

Once again, your dates are off. Concerns about pollution, ecology, and greenhouse gases were being taught in schools as early as 1976. 15 years ago is 1992 (The beginning of the Clinton administration) by which time the movement was well underway. Once again, you hardly seem to be at the head of the pack.

...and for having no more that 1 child per family 30 years ago.

And if you were familiar with any of the more progressive writings (such as Pagan Kennedy's) you would know that the "1 child per family" plan is not a cure for overpopulation. It doesn't matter if you started talking about something three decades ago if your out of touch with it now.

...and guess what! the FBI was after me at Kent St U in may 4 1970

That's odd, because the FBI had nothing to do with the Kent State Shootings...it was the Ohio National Guard. They had been sent in response to a local police request, not a federal one. In fact, there wasn't even a federal investigation in regards to the incident at all. In fact, while your age doesn't exclude the possibility you were there, it's much more likely considering the time line that you were cramming for your senior year finals in just a couple of weeks instead of taking part in mob protests. Or didn't you consider your work in psychology to be that important?

I love being hated

Well, sorry to disappoint you. I don't hate you. How do you feel about being pitied, though?
redhotzz

Apr 18 @ 10:16PM  
Good....I have a Taurus (inherited by default) that no man can seem to fix....maybe you can help it.....I, too, was Dad taught in the shade, as he knew I had gypsy blood and would go far away and he'd not be there to bail me out....so he and I spent many many weekends taking off gas tanks or carburetors and water pumps. My problem now is these stupid cars need a computer device to read the codes.....I spent $900 in code last year and 3 different mechanics......OOOPS......didn't mean to drag off topic.....foregive me, please!
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 10:22PM  
my advice to you RedHotzz...get a new car! I freely admit I know nothing about car computers...and since three certified mechanics couldn't fix it...kinda says something doesn't it?
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 10:28PM  
In addition one of the most dishonest things is to take someones quotes out of context which is exactly what you did ,so it does not make sense but in the context of the essay and discussion it made very good sense and almost everyone agreed with me.

Dishonest? Oh no dear...I don't think so. Everyone here has at least read your blog...and some here did post comments on it. It's not as if I took anything that wasn't already in a public forum where anyone can read it...and when asked I told people which blog I was quoting. Don't accuse me of being dishonest.
ladybootscooter

Apr 18 @ 10:51PM  
This same self proclaimed genius shrink has posted yet another inflammatory blog that is absolutely full of misspelled words and grammatical errors! When I so kindly pointed this out to her/him I recieved the same reply, not once but 3 times! "Sorry I type 90 wpm and I get sloppy" Gee all I could think of to say was that I type 95 wpm perfectly, did that also explain him/her sending it to me three times? I also notice he/she has declined to post my comment on said blog! So Sunny I hope you don't mind if I post it here instead!
sundance64

Apr 18 @ 10:58PM  
huh! I read that...the blog itself wasn't exactly what I would call inflammatory, but you're right...the misspelling and grammar where a little hard to get past. I, myself, was recently giving a typing test and scored 102 wpm with only 3 errors.
canuhelpme258

Apr 19 @ 1:04AM  
Seeing as how so few are here now that were here the first time the offending poster was on the site, I'll just say, her spelling has improved.

We are being subjected to psycho-babble, by a pseudo-intellectual for the purposes of furthering her own moral crusade.

The trouble with the internet is that far to many people are not who or what they claim to be. There are experts everywhere behind every cyber tree, and bush. Unfortunately, they skate by on their bull shit on most sites, I'm supposing giving them the idea that all corners of the web can be so easily manipulated.

Once again this person has made the assumption that because we are on an adult site, we are all idiots. Notice the way she completely avoids anyone (esp Dominus) who uses real facts to debunk her? She only responds to things that she feels she can still get over on us with. We went from talking about topics related to her lack of understanding of the very topic she claims expertise in, to war protests, over population and global warming?

Why the topic shifts? To draw attention away from the fact that truly indeed she has been proven to hold a b.s. degree in well b.s. honestly.

Her propaganda is so far off base as to be laughable (YES WE ARE LAUGHING AT YOU) The thing is, morals are wonderful things, but yu can not force your own down another's throat.

My biggest gripe is the way she holds all of you, in such low esteem. We are all "Sex addicts" in her mind, and her use of the term drips with contempt. Correct me if I am wrong, but aren't people with a psychology degree, out to help those with that type of problem?

To this antogonist I will also say "shut up about your daughter's credentials, accomplishments, and I.Q. she's not the one that is here acting like a moron, you are"

Everybody Jesus is coming, look busy!
cabl_guy

Apr 19 @ 1:47AM  
Good blog! I myself find her offensive and arrogant. Gotta love the way Dom shot her down!
bentan

Apr 19 @ 2:11AM  
Ok people, some armchair psychobabble from me as well: ever notice that the people who are rude, obnoxious and in-your-face about morals and such are usually also having major problems in those areas themselves? Chastising other people arrogantly is their unspoken way of saying they hate themselves. Think about all those great "moralists" who stand in the pulpit and after godly hours abuse their wives and kids or carry on affairs or put their grubby fingers in the offering box. Fucking hypocrites are acting out their own guilt by personifying it in others.
Looking4ever

Apr 19 @ 3:20AM  
That is why people with little education are always angry and putting down the experts. I gave you my resume to explain the hundreds of hours I studied to learn this I dont try to fix a car. Stay out of the Psychology and education business ( my territory ) sorry but it is true...

Excuse my French, but what a total crock of shit! Listening to you ramble gives me the impression that you know little.
needsomenow83

Apr 19 @ 3:46AM  
^^^^ .... as the 6-string axe doth grind out thine heavy chords of power. shred on, amongst the halls of folly .... shred on.





In my lifetime (short as that may be) I've encountered people who hold too fast (operative words being too fast ) to who they are, and what they know. I'll offer the same words here, that I've offered to them.


Teachers of any kind, do not become exlemprary, and note-worthy, by the amount of accolades and accoutraments they aquire. Good teachers realize that they are student among us all.


knowledge is not power (I apologize to the school-house rock extremists lol) . understanding that it is supposed to HUMBLE YOU....is. BIG difference. Funny how we all laugh at Ed Norton (The Honeymooners), but he said something that flies over most peoples heads like a 747 continental.



Watch what you say, and how you treat people. The same people you meet on the way up, you're gonna meet on the way down


pretty good words to live by, especially coming from the "token dummy" huh ?


Water has the ability to heal, the same way it has to power to destroy. Power does not come from arriving at the place where you can destroy. it comes from understanding that you have the ability to do both, which should infuse you with humility. Not the heir of self-righteousness.

That's what made Bruce Lee such a power-house. how many of us would charge at this man (in his earthly days) full speed with utter confidence we'd deal the deathening blow ?



You'd never know he was able to do what he does so poetically, having only seen him, OR heard him. that's my point.


*Fixes the hood of my cloak over my head and returns to my cave*


Humble yourself......



Looking4ever

Apr 19 @ 4:39AM  
Dayum, Needsomenow83, I am CONTINUALLY blown away by your depth of character and understanding! We could all learn much from you.
ynot7769

Apr 19 @ 11:26AM  
ummm....so in short....we're talking bout a book smart with no common sense douchebag who's full of their own shit sooo much they can't see straight right? i mean i need it broke down for me due to my lower educational backround
feistyelena

Apr 19 @ 11:49AM  
I owe no one an explanation. Right now I have a 74 year old woman living for free in my home who was living in her car.This is totally typical for me. She uses my whole rec room for here home. She has been here a year. She would be homeless without me. She doesnt have enough money to live anywhere decent.
I was only16 when I was the first student at my high school to be against the war in Vietnam. You all know what kind of hell I was put thru. And beaten up. So it was a huge deal. The gentleman did not take that into consideration. Did he want me to protest when I was in elementary?? Once again things are twisted by the little "group" .
I have gotten so many emails from people who have given me the atta girl and said you folks are like a high school clique and jealous. Of someone who is willing to be different. And you are.
Next. I have read as much as dom. We cannot sustain our population. I have know about global warming and desertification since the 1960s but have only been pushing the agena since the 80s. I started recycling in my neighborhood and my kid started it in her school. I ran a school for emotionally disturbed teems in cleveland for 20 years with a salary 1/4 what I could have made in private practice.
My friends laughed their asses of at yours worrying about my grammer. As your can see, I can use proper grammer. But the message is what is important. But it is not important for those who are looking to discount.

Now Mr Expert. I was in SDS. My Boyfriend, who I later married and became a leader at Harvard SDS, Was a Major leader in SDS. I was accused to being one of the people who burned down the ROTC building. He eventually joined the Progressive Labor Party. The FBI. had a huge dossier on him thus on me. So you don know anything do you. In fact you keep telling me how much you know. you all do. Go back and read the Nation and New Republic from those days. You will see the FBI was all over out Campus at Kent. I know I was there. He was not.
I took my blogs off because it stopped raining and I got you folks taking about something other than your dicks and pussys.

The fast pace of society and the inability of us to keep up with it has been noted since the 1960's. It has a name: Cultural lag. Look it up. Read about it.

Anthrolpologists and sociologists conjecture that we evolved for a hunter gatherer society and that the society of a post modern computer age society is putting so much stress on our primitive abilities we are being destroyed. I did not make this up. It is common knowledge. Look it up. I cant believe you dont know this.

Didnt what happen in Virginia tell us this.... Good bye to all of you and fuck you for you ignorance and denial and that is why our species is doomed. Lets destroy the messenger. I always have been 100 years ahead of my time El
feistyelena

Apr 19 @ 12:03PM  
children who are not loved in early life do not learn to "bond" : early experiments withinfants monkeys showed even warm fuzzy inate mother monkeys which gave them warmth made them less neurotic than baby monkeys with wire mess mothers. mirasmus is a disease of the shrinking of the spinal cord that can kill infants who are never picked up in orphanages. people who do not learn to bond in early life do not know how to love ever. love and bonding is a necessary part of normal human existence that was my only point. We call children failure to thrive who are not growing due to lack of nurturning "loving" I am so horribly sorry if I did not get that accross. would a bullet to my head make you guys happy. I just did not want to sound like I was teaching a college class which I have.......you draw your own conclusion i guess I am just a fucking idiot..
JJN4Fun

Apr 19 @ 12:11PM  
children who are not loved in early life do not learn to "bond"

I'm guessing you meant that children who aren't nurtured may not grow up to bond with other people. A parent can love a child but not nurture him/her...

Erickson's theory of personality development say that the "task" of the child in the first year of life is "trust vs. mistrust"...A child who isn't nurtured may (MAY) end up having difficulty trusting others (and the world around him/her), thereby having difficulty bonding. There is more to it than that, of course, but I'm sure you know that...
sundance64

Apr 19 @ 12:21PM  
Once again...you're babbling. Or rather, baffling. What's you're point? That you are educated? You taught classes? We get it. I'll even concede the point that you have more education than me. Ok...fine. So do alot of people.
I also get that children need nurturing at an early age...starting in the womb in fact. Touching, holding, cuddling...of course these are all basic needs. Are you trying to say that these people don't do this? Or that they haven't gotten it as children themselves?
As far as taking in a homeless person...kudoes to you. Good for you. I've also taken in people who were at the point of destitution. Does this make me better than someone who hasn't? No. It simply makes me one of many kind people looking out for a friend.
But what does the Vietnam war, Population control, Global Warming or SDS have to do with the discussion at hand?
sundance64

Apr 19 @ 12:32PM  
You also may not have noticed that there have been many ongoing discussions that had little to do with sex or various genitalia. They had nothing to do with you or your blogs and occured before you arrived on the scene...or after you left the first time depending on your perspective. And they will continue long after you've been forgotten again.
BTW...all these friends of yours who are laughing their asses off at us? I wonder why they haven't made any comments to this in your defense? Or rather in your support? If they are calling this a 'clique', I'm sure that you as the educated person you are corrected that notion, seeing as how 'clique' is not the correct term for the group of people gathered here...overused a term as it is.
ponme

Apr 19 @ 12:37PM  
Awwww Ellen came back and I missed her? That sucks!!!!
feistyelena

Apr 19 @ 1:27PM  
I was trying to respond to some of the comments about what people said about me. but it does not matter what I say. You are going to pick it apart. why because you cannot stand that some people with an education know more than you. and they are able to use it. Many educated people have no common sense. I do When did I get angry with Americans.... not always. I guess when they started being the horrible producers of anorexic kids, and the drivers of suvs and the buyers of designer clothes and all of the stupid things in the 80s that they should have known were going to destroy our planet. Our society has become a mindless consumptive machine. Reality tv is high intellect. Paris Hilton makes news oye vey.The news media is schlock. We read romance crap instead of great novelists, like Hemmingway. Scholarship means nothing. School Sports is more important than academics. The information was everywhere. But they didnt care. They wanted it all. So if you drive an SUV If your house is full of unnessary trinkets. If you have garage sales to buy and buy, if you watch crap on t v and I know you do. If you were negligent with your kids, if your put money ahead of the arts and education, than you are the despoiler.... That is 75% of you or more. You are in total denial, You have to hate people like me. My ex is a VP at Ford. He drives a small car. I do too. We always did. We love mother earth. Its just most of her kids that make us sick....And homo sapien will be gone in 200 years. and 5% of the earth you , is pretty well responsible for it. I have fought all my life against poverty, injustice, and for the environment. I now know no matter what I say this lady is going to pick it apart. she doesnt want to know what I think. she is just angry that someone is smarter and better educated. I have met people like her my whole life. Thank god I have mostly met classy folks able to meet in interesting dialogue. No more....It wont make a difference now..... bye ellen
sundance64

Apr 19 @ 1:48PM  
Ya know...if you hadn't been so rude and arrogant, we probably could have had a decent conversation here. But once again, you've assumed you are better than the rest of us with no background information about us to support your assumption.

So...I'll tell you a little more about me since we're tooting our collective horns here...
I have raised my son to be independant and take care of himself. I have loved him, and nurtured him since the moment I learned he was a part of me. I have confidence that he is growing into a fine young man and will find his way to be a valuable part of society.
I was an active member of my community in the state I just left. I participated in fund raisers for the schools and tutored children and teens in reading and writing. I also have given talks to people regarding recovery from alcoholism...as many here already know I am a recovering alcoholic. I share my story freely in the hopes that it will help and inspire others...but more than that because I know that by sharing I will remain a strong and sober person myself.
I donate my spare time to causes which I am passionate about...volunteering at local animal shelters and farms that house abandoned and neglected horses. I gave up my saturday afternoons for years to a haven for these animals.
I'm a conservationist as well. I've never owned any vehicle bigger than a ford ranger pick-up...and currently drive a dodge neon. I also recycle...everything. If I can't donate it or make it over, I turn it into the local recycling plant or turn it into mulch.
I live in a modest older home in a very small town, near the foothills of the northwest Carolina mountains. I can see them in the distance and I thank my creator every time I catch a glimpse that I've been giving this gift of life and love and joy.
I am a happy person, and content with who I am today. As I said before...I'm willing to share what knowledge I have freely...whether its teaching a child to read or a single mom how to fix a flat tire. And I'm always willing to learn from other people. I can't see ever becoming so arrogant as to think I don't have anything left to learn or that I know more than anyone around me.

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