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Is Kissing Cheating?

The constant battle over 'he said, she said' gets old after awhile in the land of coupledom. Is there a way to fight healthy about issues such as what constitutes cheating?

Ninety-three percent of couples who fight dirty will be divorced in a decade. And we will all disagree at some point. So maybe what is best, is to agree that we will disagree and make that a prominent point as we fight our battles. Some people wish to avoid confrontation at all costs, but this is not a realistic mindset, because in the end - whether we wait for it or bring it about, disagreements and opposing viewpoints - WILL blow up in our face.

Cheating can be subjective. What is cheating to one person - such as a partner who is having cybersex - another might consider to be harmful flirtation. One would definitely think that the person who is provoked by online sexual behavior with another, would think of kissing as a crucial, devious behavior that would lead to the detriment of a monogamous relationship. Other people have no problem with their partner flirting, kissing or even sleeping with other people.

Why is one type of relationship - the straight monogamous kind - better than another type of relationship - the so-called 'open relationship'? What makes society openly accept the first and not the latter? And what makes most people feel 'safer' in a monogamous union? Insecurity, jealousy, tradition and conformity unite to rule the majority of present day relationships.

Maybe we weren't meant to be monogamous. Maybe we were meant to go around kissing whoever made us feel good, whenever it seemed right. Then again, this might lead to more than superficial feelings and we may stray off-course from the person we truly see ourselves growing old with.

So. Maybe kissing isn't cheating. or maybe it is. Only you and your partner can answer that question.

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lovemycamera69

Dec 8 @ 8:16AM

I always go by the mantra: Lips are for Lovers. For me, anything else is just beautiful friction.

St4rFux0r3r

Dec 11 @ 4:22PM

No, but fucking her from hell to breakfast is!

daytona_girl

Dec 16 @ 6:16AM

If the kiss has meaning then it will probably lead to more so I will say yes kissing is cheating

surver

Dec 16 @ 10:35AM

yes i think kissing is cheating any thing that shows any kind of feeling is to me

zena343

Dec 16 @ 2:01PM

I have to agree, kissing someone intimately other than your partner is cheating.

northern_woman

Jan 7 @ 1:29AM

A friendly kiss is one thing. A passionate kiss is cheating

handsome66

Jan 14 @ 4:01PM

yes it is

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WildOne5969

Jan 15 @ 1:33PM

Are you all living in the dark ages there is nothing wrong with a passionate kiss among friends

allforyou999

Jan 16 @ 4:53PM

This explains when I have sex with ladies and its just sex, they don't kiss. I asked one time and they told me they didn't want to kiss, its just sex

oohwa

Jan 17 @ 8:10PM

to me passionate kissing is far more intimate than sex, so yes kissing is cheating

fortunedion

Jan 20 @ 8:50PM

Nah. Kissing alone is not cheating. Now the exchange of more intimate bodily fluids is cheating.

thehatinthecat

Jan 21 @ 7:52AM

I think it depends on the reason behind the kiss. You can kiss someone on the lips and not mean anything more then a simple "I love you" between friends. When there is an element of passion, lust or desire behind the kiss, then you could easily be entering into the realm of cheating. I think that if the kiss has one of those three elements and that one person in the relationship is doing with out regard for their partner's feelings then yes it is cheating.

shellsmack

Feb 1 @ 7:06PM

I'm not even going to read this, I'm goin' straight for the answer...YES, IT'S CHEATING!!

SilverWolf187

Feb 2 @ 5:14AM

I belive that you have to look into the customs at where you are. As for here in the states, I think that most would say kissing is considered as cheating

Fucktoy4u

Feb 6 @ 1:04AM

Think of cheating in this light. Cheating is anything you would not want a partner doing with another person if you were in a committed monogomus relationship. It's only cheating if one of the parties thinks it is. In a soft swing, giving head IS NOT cheating. In an uptight, vanilla relationship, a hug is a mortal sin. Would your PARTNER consider it cheating if she walked in on you two? Kisses FT

pleyful1

Feb 6 @ 9:09AM

A FRIENDLY KISS IS ON THE CHEEK ONLY, NOT LIPS.

mcsincg

Feb 7 @ 3:22PM

I have to say it depends on the kiss... You have the kiss my ex wife gave me the other day, which I wished she would have kissed me like that when we were married. That I believe was cheating. It was passionate and sentual. then there is that kiss you give someone because you dont care or whatever... thats not cheating.

james333497

Feb 9 @ 9:13AM

Comeon now, we all know the expert on cheating matters is our own ex-President, Mr. Bill Clinton! ha! No, seriously, the Catinthehat is right on target.

punchy29

Feb 11 @ 5:28PM

It;s only cheatin if you DON'T tell your significant other what you did. An open, honest relationship is optimal; your only cheating yourself if your not happy ;-)

applemuffin

Feb 24 @ 5:23PM

It is cheating if you are concerened or fear telling your mate. If you feel that little ache in your gut it is wrong. If it is something you wouldn't do in front of your mate it is wrong.

need4speed144

Mar 1 @ 10:12PM

I believe a passionate kiss can be extremely arousing so I do believe it is cheating. Look at it this way, if you wont do it in front of your partner then it must not be right..............agreed??

powermanmikegygi

Mar 3 @ 6:43PM

well it depends on what lips you are kissing........ummmmmmmm

Lokiraver

May 31 @ 9:23PM

I'd have to say fucktoy4you is on the money, I've gone through that cheating thing numerous times in the past. It comes down not even to societal standards, but to individual standards. If you as a person feels a kiss is cheating and your partner kisses someone else, yes, they're cheating, if you as a person feels that kissing a member of the same sex is not cheating and they kiss a member of the same sex, it's not cheating. It all breaks down to the fact that each and every one of us are individuals and will view relationship standards individually.

shellsmack

Jun 15 @ 3:58AM

Yes!

Fckmhrdtnght

Jul 10 @ 12:51AM

I find kissing more intimate that sex....

the movie Pretty Woman.... no kissing.

I had sex with my STBX right until the marriage ended.... however the kissing stopped 10 years earlier when the loving did..

Though it true... this something that has to be discussed with your partner... to find each other's boundaries...

Good Article

allforyou999

Jan 24 @ 1:16PM

I have been with several couples and some Husbands would let me do anythng to their wives but kissing was out of the question. I asked one couple why no kissing and they replied that they thought that was to intimate. I stepped back and said, they wil let me suck them, lick them , make love to them, cum in them but no kissing !

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